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Is this conversation a red flag between exs ?

113 replies

LexiAllen · 06/07/2024 18:26

the guy I’m dating ex girlfriend posted a quote on her story saying “she’s hard to replace, and unforgettable, hard to come bye”. He responded to her quote and texted her saying “yea yea yea” . she responded saying “you know it” then he said “mmh idk”. She then replied saying “you know you still like me” and he responded saying “how are you so sure” ….

why did he even comment on her post saying that?

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kkloo · 07/07/2024 01:19

NotAgainWilson · 06/07/2024 18:30

She seems like a properly deranged ex marking her territory.

Were they married AND have children together? If so, run away, having a psycho calling the shots using her kids as pawns is a proper life long shit show you would like to avoid.

Women really don't need to do much at all to get called 'deranged' and psycho do they?

PivotPivotmakingmargaritas · 07/07/2024 01:31

LexiAllen · 06/07/2024 20:36

No her whole post was for everyone to see…. I’m not sure if you guys are familiar with instagram/facebook? There’s a feature where you can post on your story which is public so that’s what she did. He responded to her post which went to her private message/DM… which only she can see his reply. Still doesn’t make it better though

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lol how ageist .. “not sure if you are familiar with facebook and instagram “ …. Darlin most of us had facebook when you were in nappies!!

Whether it’s email, Facebook, fax, homing pigeon the poster was right it’s disrespectful to you! If he is dating you why is he flirting with his ex or even discussing if they like each other

She may have made a public post but it was fishing for a reaction… that she got .. send him back he’s not invested in you - if he was he wouldn’t have responded nor noticed her post

LifeExperience · 07/07/2024 01:39

They are both flirting openly, and appear to both be trying to rekindle their relationship.

Dump him, OP, he is not mature enough for an adult relationship.

Lostworlds · 07/07/2024 02:44

@LexiAllen You’re never going to feel okay about this and will always be insecure about her.
He clearly likes talking to her and you don’t like it. You’re questioning his every word but I think deep down you know he still has some lingering feelings there.

Either you ask what’s going on or you just move on from this relationship. It’s not healthy to be this stressed and checking his phone for their every interaction.

Ultimately it’s up to you what you do but you can’t carry on with checking the phone you’ll either need to talk to him or move past it.

Emily1583 · 07/07/2024 02:47

Yeah it's not over between them.

IamaRevenant · 07/07/2024 02:58

Jesus give it up, OP.This one's a lost cause.

PlumSkies · 07/07/2024 03:05

He's still into her.

AquaFurball · 07/07/2024 03:13

LexiAllen · 06/07/2024 23:40

Make sense… that’s probably why she said “you know you still like me” and he said “how are you so sure about that……

doesn’t that come off like he likes her ?

when she said “so you don’t” he didn’t reply?

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Why are you stalking his private messages on Insta? You all need to grow up.

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LexiAllen · 07/07/2024 03:30

He responded to her saying “I do” that he does like her … wow

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dontlookbackinangerr · 07/07/2024 03:39

@LexiAllen all the messages indicate they still like each other, and all the advice is to move on. Do you see that now? Please tell me you do. You'll save yourself bigger heartbreak later and you deserve better.

beenwhereyouare · 07/07/2024 05:49

LexiAllen · 06/07/2024 20:36

No her whole post was for everyone to see…. I’m not sure if you guys are familiar with instagram/facebook? There’s a feature where you can post on your story which is public so that’s what she did. He responded to her post which went to her private message/DM… which only she can see his reply. Still doesn’t make it better though

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@LexiAllen

"I’m not sure if you guys are familiar with instagram/facebook?"

Oh, sweetheart.

I hope you weren't serious about that.

But I agree with PP, the two of them are flirting/keeping a connection between them. Don't settle for someone like this. Surely you want a relationship where you're the priority? You'll always have doubts and a lack of trust; he doesn't respect you enough to stop looking at her posts and even worse, commenting or communicating with her.

Love and respect yourself enough to be the priority in someone's life. You deserve that, and he's never going to give that to you.

Don't give him a chance to explain. Send him a text to break up and then block.

Londongirl8922 · 07/07/2024 05:51

Oh gosh give him back to her...that's not right at all...

Waterboatlass · 07/07/2024 06:25

LexiAllen · 07/07/2024 03:30

He responded to her saying “I do” that he does like her … wow

Well that's that then.

Bookworm20 · 07/07/2024 06:26

Well it wasn’t sarcasm.
he is a disrespectful piece of crap at best.
They are flirting.
your last post confirms that. I’m so sorry op. You sounded like you were trying to reason it out but unfortunately what you were thinking is worst case scenario is the actual scenario.
throw him back.
I wouldn’t even give him the time of day after that.
You deserve much much better.
As much as it hurts, walk away. Don’t waste your life on someone who is clearly open to cheating on you.

AltitudeCheck · 07/07/2024 06:51

You're 23, don't waste anymore time with this one, he's not the one!

Softycatchymonkeys · 07/07/2024 07:01

He’s responded “I do”
Great! Dump him, move on, waste no more time

NotAgainWilson · 07/07/2024 07:09

kkloo · 07/07/2024 01:19

Women really don't need to do much at all to get called 'deranged' and psycho do they?

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Have you had one of those in your life? I have and believe me, posting that thing online is NOT a problem, but having her trying to prove the point that nobody would be as good as her to her ex, just when the ex has started dating someone else, and more so, the ex entertaining such conversation are pretty good signs of a woman used to be in control and a man conditioned to do as she is told by her.

Whether he is looking to go back to her or not, is irrelevant. She still has a good hold on him and just for that OP would be better off letting him go.

BirthdayRainbow · 07/07/2024 07:15

PlumSkies · 07/07/2024 03:05

He's still into her.

He wants to be in her.

Sorry.

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LexiAllen · 07/07/2024 07:24

NotAgainWilson · 07/07/2024 07:09

Have you had one of those in your life? I have and believe me, posting that thing online is NOT a problem, but having her trying to prove the point that nobody would be as good as her to her ex, just when the ex has started dating someone else, and more so, the ex entertaining such conversation are pretty good signs of a woman used to be in control and a man conditioned to do as she is told by her.

Whether he is looking to go back to her or not, is irrelevant. She still has a good hold on him and just for that OP would be better off letting him go.

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i agree yet how can a woman who only dated a man for 3 months have a hold on him ?

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PatchworkElmer · 07/07/2024 07:27

Dump him now.

perfectcolourfound · 07/07/2024 08:02

The fact is he still likes her and she still likes him. That's the most obvious explanation for their flirty chats.

I'd leave them to it.

Copperoliverbear · 07/07/2024 08:06

Get rid of him he's an idiot and she's a vain arsehole they're welcome to each other, he replied because he's an immature idiot, possibly keeping his opinions open.

Lostworlds · 07/07/2024 08:35

LexiAllen · 07/07/2024 07:24

i agree yet how can a woman who only dated a man for 3 months have a hold on him ?

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It doesn’t really matter how long they were together. She has feelings for him and he still has feelings for her. Totally rubbish for you but put yourself first and dump him!

You’ve been worried about this clearly as you’ve been checking his phone which isn’t the healthiest of things to do. This relationship isn’t worth it!
Dump him and focus on yourself for a little while.

DietCokeandHulaHoops · 07/07/2024 08:44

cryinglaughing · 06/07/2024 19:19

If Destroyed Still True 🤣

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I’d literally forgotten this until right now 😂

Spudoolikay · 07/07/2024 08:47

He's an arsewipe @LexiAllen and totally disrespecting you. Be glad he's shown you his true colours so you can move on and not waste anymore time on him.

More fool her for entertaining him again - I presume she knows he's seeing you. Either way, she's in for (another) bumpy ride it seems.

Cry it out, dust yourself off and find someone who deserves you Flowers