How can I make things better?
im always being told by my DH that i dont do things right, I dont clean properly, i dont cook properly. I do it properly it’s just I cant seem to meet his standards, I didn’t chop an ingredient finely enough or I didn’t put something away how he likes it. It feels like double standards because it’s ok if he doesn’t clean, or whatever but not if I don’t.
In general I feel like I’m on eggshells round him a lot because there’s always something he’s annoyed at me about which is why I’m feeling really anxious in general.
he’s otherwise very good with our dc, a hard worker and we have a good relationship but there’s always something he’s irritated about by me. I try to talk to him and he said it’s because I do stupid things. I’m not a stupid person.
weve both had to compress hours due to not being able to afford to put our child in nursery more than three times a week, I asked nursery how much we would save once we get the 15 hours and I read the email wrong because I didn’t read it properly and told DH the wrong amount.
turns out we are saving more than we thought. Because he thought we weren’t saving much he told me an opportunity came up at work but he didn’t go for it because we can’t afford the extra day, but now with the hours turns out we could have done. And now he’s very upset with me that he cancelled his interview, I didn’t tell him to do that and said we could find a way. I said I’m sorry.
My job requires me to be so on it, and with our young DC I’m just so tired I didn’t read it properly. Now it’s another thing I’ve done wrong, how can I make this right? I feel terrible and stupid that I read it wrong and he missed a work opportunity. I’m also fed up of feeling like I’m always doing something wrong.