Friend's ex

[Delly9]

My friend's ex is unemployed, controlling, does drugs, smoke and is an alcoholic.

He has messaged me a few times to say he is interested. I have been very firm and said I am not interested and that I am in a happy relationship. I feel he is violating boundaries and won't take no for answer. I have sworn at him and that don't stop him.

I don't like fall outs but I just want to delete him as he has no respect for me or my partner. I have never been interested and never will.

He said he thought I was nice when he first met me at her mother's funeral, awful and sick of him to say that. He should have supported her and not perving over her mates. He even told her dad who he moved in with, auntie and brother in law to f* off on different occasions and the dad stopped with his other daughter for a few days after bwing sworn at! That boyfriend should have been made to move out straight away.

She still talks to him out of loneliness so is not serious about moving on after the disrespect he has shown to everyone.

very very odd why you haven’t blocked him op

or indeed why he has your number in the first place

And you haven’t blocked him yet why?

It is Facebook Messenger. I would never give him my number.

even more odd then you don’t just de friend and block

simple really

Block and forget about him.

Sounds like you enjoy getting attention from him as you didn't block him after his first message.

Unfriend and block - it’s that simple

Inexplicable.

Edit-posted too soon. Why are you giving headspace to this loser and what he's up to when all you have to do is block? (I know this will be the new cancel the cheque but it really is so obvious)

there must be more to this

otherwise your situation is un fathomable that you haven’t just thought… i will block him

instead choosing to engage with him and garners mumsnet views on the situation

I think you must somehow enjoy the drama, 8f you haven't taken the simple step of blocking him.

this is the friend and ex part re you started a threads about last year OP?

Good grief what’s going on here with you and him?!

I wouldn't have even wasted my time responding before I blocked him

Block him on every platform

Unless, of course, you enjoy the attention and this is a weird stealth boast type of thread

If so - crack on and knock yourself out 🤣

@Delly9 block block block him on everything and anything ! Why haven’t you already ? I know you said you don’t want to fall out with people but you clearly don’t own him anything and even if he wants to fall out with you , who cares , he is no good for anything and you shouldn’t need someone like him in your life for anything ( alcoholic , druggie, smoker ) no thanks . You have nothing to lose by losing this person .
if he ever sees you and asks why you blocked him , just say , well clearly you didn’t respect my boundaries and my relationship status .
who the hell would want a man like him when he’s messaging someone else’s girlfriend knowing full well that she’s in a relationship already ? Snake !

Thanks all for your advice. I just deleted and blocked him. You are all right. I should not tolerate that negative behaviour. Even when sworn at he still does it as he knows I will accept it. His best mate fell out with him months ago. I feel better I deleted and blocked him. No more drama.

genuine question

but did blocking him not occur to you before now?

Why all the drama, just block him.

Have you told her any of this?

You need to look at your behaviour. It's odd to say the least and you can't possibly expect us to believe you didn't realise you could simply block him abusive dickhead. She might be lonely, but you are too involved.

Yeah, I told her but she loves the drama.

I don't think she's the only one.

I can see why you’re mates,,,😄

I was honest and told my partner. For some reason he has got insecure and messaged him to tell him not to pester me again. I told my partner in the past when these incidents happened so there were no secrets. I had sorted it and said I had blocked him so why interfere. Whenever he has had women after him I have not messaged and threatened them.

My boyfriend also got annoyed as I told another friend. He said why did I tell him and I said it is because my friend had messaged at the time so I mentioned the harassment. I feel like my boyfriend is being controlling now.

you’re protesting a bit too much. I’ve had so called friends in the past take barely concealed pleasure in telling me an ex has flirted with them too