Hi all,
Hope you are all well.
This is new to me but my head is spinning.
6 Years ago I married the biggest love of my life.
Handsome. Kind. Loving. Supportive. Best Friends and not to mention our sex life was lush.
We ticked every box for a fantastic marriage.
Bought a house, new car, all was going amazingly well.
I was so happy, but now and again my trauma as a child would peak its ugly face at me but with a fantastic husband someone I could trust I would paddle through it all and it was all good.
Fast forwards four year into our marriage I found out my husband faced some small issues, but not big enough to address them with me.
I confided in my best friend. She was amazing.
Out of the blue one day I was looking after her son I found a very detailed love letter to her from my husband. They've had an affair. I confronted my husband and he confessed. I immediately kicked him out and filed for divorce. I was heart broken. I lost my husband and best friend.
2 years after it all went down I saw me ex husband and we started talking again and of course it went from there. We are both single and fallen in love.
I own my own house and car, good job in finance, overall happy out.
I've explained how badly he hurt me and starting again would carry baggage in terms of trust and I was scared.
Until last night all was going okay until he said.
"If you had done xyz back then I don't think I would have cheated".
I was like a slap, so I said. I'm sorry. That is lame or inconsiderate. I can't nor will I come back in after you had your fun. We're done. Really done.
I've now blocked him on my phone.
Just need a reality check from the outside world.
Am I Right or Wrong ?
Thank you all and have a wonderful weekend.