Social services question

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Myself and my ex boyfriend had an argument few months ago he was drunk. I wanted to leave the room to shut down the situation and ex boyfriend pulled me back onto the bed. Anyway the police were called and he was arrested for assault. My teenage son was in his room so a child was in the house.
I ended it with the bf because when he drank I didn’t like the person he was but he wasn’t that person sober. This is the first incident by the way.
social services was called and it was shut down because we weren’t in a relationship.
my ex bf hasn’t drank since the incident in April and wants to put things right by stopping any drinking not that he was an alcoholic.
if I did decide to if i was confident after a certain amount of time he could stick to his plea of not drinking and I wanted to give the relationship another go would I have to tell social services even if it was say 6months to a year down the line ? I can’t find any info online

How do you know he hasn't drunk since then?

What does your child think about you getting back with this man??

No. Stop. Don't.

You do NOT go back to a violent drinker.

He hasn't changed, they never changed, you'll regret it.

You can do better.

The end.

No you don't have to tell them, the case was closed. It will only be reopened if they are alerted again, and then they may ask why you took him back and judge you (silently) as a parent.

ive been making him having monthly blood tests at the doctors to keep the results

Isn't there a man in the entire world that won't screw up his first chance with you?. Second chances with such men just show your judgement is skewed... Keep him gone op.

Do better by your son. He doesn't deserve to live in an environment where his mother cares more about what social services will say rather than the impact a drunk violent person could have on her child.

Seriously, do better.

No, I would never let anyone who put their hand on me near me or my children. There is never an excuse. He didn't go from nothing to violence when in a house with a child.

He will not stop. You are just prolonging the inevitable. It will happen again, it’s just a matter of when.

Which doctor will do monthly blood tests for a guy to prove to his ex girlfriend that he's not drinking??
Don't be silly. Don't invite this man back into your child's home.

to answer your question, no you won't have to inform social services as they are not involved with your family.

However - I would advise against getting back with this person, you have already done the hardest part in cutting ties, letting them back into your life would possibly be putting yourself and your child at risk in the future.

Wait until he has been sober and non violent for a year.

2 months is nothing.

No way this is happening.

Seriously OP. At least own your shit. You want to invite someone who's actions brought SS into your life. One strike and your out when you've got kids.

That’s what I said 6months to a year

Oh good grief - say goodbye - life is too short for this sort of nonsense and your child is too precious.

There is no monthly blood test that could show whether alcohol has been imbibed that month. It doesn't exist. Science has not created it.

Come on OP. Are you really young? It's the only explanation I can have for you even considering this.

If someone is an angry drunk, I guarantee you there will be deeper issues beyond the drinking. I don't believe this person is necessarily going to be this wonderful human being without the alcohol.

Where there is smoke there is fire!

And many drinkers are the most horrendous liars and will lie quite easily and happy and that will therefore include lying about their drinking.

Which gp practice does monthly bloods to prove that you aren't drinking. Never heard of it.

Your teenage son is watching all this and learning. You are ok with this? Is your son ok with this douche coming back on the scene.

Get some self respect OP, please. Don't let him back in your life again.

Who told you a monthly blood test shows up all alcohol use?

And you managed to get this through the GP?

It sounds like to me you either don’t know he isn’t drinking and just saying that. Or he is actually living with you again, but you are pretending you aren’t and wondering if at some point you should tell SS rather than worry about them finding out.

What support has he got for his drinking? He anger issues?

He doesn’t live with me he hasn’t in my my own since the incident. He goes to a weekly help centre he’s on tablets if he drinks he will be very sick and they advised him to have monthly blood tests at the gp and it does exist.
I am not in a relationship with him. It was one incident in a year when he was drunk. He isnt angry when he’s drunk he can get emotionally I said I didn’t like him as a person when he’s drunk as I like the person he is sober. I was just thinking if he wants to change and he proves that there may be an option to move forward I was just getting advise

What if he gets drunk again and it’s your ds who’s gets the brunt of his anger? OP you can do so much better for you and your son.

Don't go back - you'll never be completely happy knowing that he might do it again. You'll always wonder if he'll go out and come back drunk. If he can do it once he can do it again. It's not worth it.

Look, it's obvious you want him back so admit it. No one will tell you it is okay, a good idea or sensible.

https://lextox.co.uk/blog-posts/phosphatidylethanol-peth-testing/
it does, but it's expensive and GPs don't do it

It really doesn't. You can tests LFTs, but they only go off kilter if you've really damaged your liver through sustained alcohol abuse, in someone with a non cirrhotic liver it isn't going to show up going on a bender a couple of weeks earlier. And the easiest way to get around antabuse tablets is just not to take them. Which is incredibly common.

He's on antabuse? I thought you said he wasn't an alcoholic?