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Ex wants to meet up

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Frappy123 · 17/06/2024 20:14

My ex of 2 years recently asked if I wanted to have dinner. I agreed. This comes after I reached out to him a year or so ago ( he ended things) to see if we could meet. My intentions being to try again. He agreed to talk via text first and ultimately decided not to meet me and ended it with he will always have feelings for me, wished me the best etc. It was at that moment I finally decided to let go and move past this, got myself into counseling and was doing great. Until 4 months ago he sends a random text, just a link to an article about something he clearly knew I'd know about (my fav golfer being disqualified) with a laughing emoji. I ignored it. WTH? You told me you didn't want to see me. Well in May we started talking a bit, just light conversation and not often. He's now asked me to dinner. He said he's excited to see me and catch up. What does that even mean? I still love him. Catching up and parting ways will be hard for me. It would be too hard for me to be friends also. Ugh. Confused.

OP posts:

Treesandnature42 · 31/08/2024 20:29

Don't see him. I would guess he was seeing someone else. It's not worked out and he's got you as the back option. Don't put yourself through it. Just move on. Saying he will always have feelings was the gateway for him to come back when he pleases.

Jw1 · 27/09/2024 01:03

Don't meet up, he will promise you the earth,,you will probably give him another chance, he will tell you anything that he has changed , he's a much calmer man,A much more lovely man, Your ex only wants to get into your knickers again,Do not be fooled. He ruined your life once do you want too be ruined again,,he sounds like a sneeze ball,,you got rid of him once,keep away,you will be sorry..

Hairyesterdaygonetoday · 27/09/2024 09:13

TallGal92 · 17/06/2024 20:25

I don’t want to hurt your feelings as you clearly still love your ex but it seems to me like whatever he had going on (perhaps a relationship?) is over and he’s come back to you because you are an easy option. He knows you still love him and he’s using that to maybe give his ego a boost.

The fact that you literally had to have counselling to move past this relationship tells me that it hurt you very deeply. Please don’t fall back into this. It’s not worth it. You deserve way better than someone who keeps you on the back burner and plays with your emotions. Block him and find yourself someone who values you.

All the best.

This, 100%. Don’t let him hurt you again, OP. He is not kind to you.

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