Boyfriend had affair when married

[halloween67]

I have been dating my boyfriend for a year now, his divorce got finalised about 18 months ago.
Tonight we started talking about people having affairs. He told me that about 20 years ago he cheated on his ex wife for a good few months. Then the affair stopped and he carried on being married.

It's really bothered me even though it was 20 years ago and not really anything to do with me.
I'm not sure if I am overreacting or not as it was so long ago?
Would appreciate some other opinions please. Thanks

If he's done it once he'll do it again. Believe me I was with the man with the same kind of situation.
Being dishonest Stays with people.
Especially whenever they know they can get away with it

Of course people can change but to be fair after working in male environment most men cheat on their wife's/girlfriends they just don't know it. Obviously only speaking from my own experience.

I cheated on a boyfriend more than 20 years ago. I'm ashamed of myself, and regret it. It's not the kind of person I want to be. I changed my behavior and have been faithful to my husband since the day we met.

It wouldn't bother me tbh. People change, grow up, find better part ers for themselves. It was 20 years ago.

I would be finding out something like this before 1 year - I couldn't be with someone who had been unfaithful.

Well he was honest enough to tell you about it. With partners that have been married before it would be harder to find someone that's absolutely never cheated than someone who has.

We all would prefer someone who we believe would never cheat but by middle age that's narrowed the pool down considerably.

If I viewed his admission as a red flag then it would depend on so many variables on his feelings on affairs and his reasons for straying.

If he's done at once , you're always Do it again No matter what female he's with because there's always somebody that it's pretty Then the next.

My horrid hubby who i am soon leaving (he doesnt know yet) said his ex mrs had quite a few affairs.
Well so did he too all women with their own homes too.
Said he went round to fix a womans fridge she greeted him with suspenders on hmm he is obsessed with hosiery think he gave the come on.
Things you find out years later. I wouldnt touch him with a venetian bargepole if i came across him now.