Fuck off your a miserable bitch

[Cleansheetsandacuppa]

DH tells me to leave the kitchen, he needs help in the garden. Ok, I take out the washing. It’s spitting but will clear up. I don’t want the dryer on.
he tells me to take it down, it’s raining.
esrlier we’d resolved the discussion where I put too much ketchup on y plate, while he finally acknowledged he threw away too many oven chips.
i said, I don’t want to start the argument again, it’s silly and we’ve resolved it.
i hang out washing, he tells me to take it down, I say stop telling me what to do ( recurring theme)
he told me to fuck off and under his breath, ‘miserable bitch’
im furious, and hurt and so confused. What would you do?

But it's not just ketchup, it's money, his thinking of seemingly superior quality, OP wondering if she can get a haircut.

So yes under these circumstances I would have ready answers because you would just know some petty nonsense bollocks was coming sooner or later.

"Oh it's ketchup now anything else?"
For instance

Thanks for the food for thought and for helping clarify my thinking.

Did you miss the part about her inheritance going in the joint account?

Sounds a miserable existence, tho I also don’t know know anyone that hangs clothes out in the rain tbh

I'd leave.

Why do you only work PT?

Its a bit of a piss take that you want to keep money for yourself for treats if he’s working FT and paying all of the bills.

I think it’s important that each person has some of their own money but if finances are tight then it’s reasonable to put it all in the joint pot.

What an awful man . I would not be prepared to live with such pettiness and insult

This isn't a happy marriage or a happy existence. An adult shouldn't be telling another adult how much ketchup to put on their food.

Good grief you both sound like Mr and Mrs Twit 🤣🤣🤣

😁

threecheeses not helpful, hurtful. Glad you found it funny.

1. Get your inheritance out of the joint account for a start.
2. Do not put all of your wages in the joint account. Put enough to cover your half of the bills and the rest is for you
3. Get rid of him! This is not a healthy relationship.

Get rid of him OP. He brings nothing but misery to your life and life is too short.

Negative energy just sucks the life out of you.
Start living !

Just put your money in a Fuck Off Fund and eventually, fuck off and leave him. He's awful.

He sounds like he is micro managing you. Our former neighbour had her wages deposited in a joint account, he would ''allow'' her to take a small amount each day which was enough to buy fuel to get her to work and back, yet I would often see him at the takeaway for his lunch when I worked in the same district.

Whilst I don't see anything wrong in couples being truthful about their earning capacity, if it results in one of them controlling how and why spare money is spent by the other partner, then there is a problem.

In her case, she told a mutual friend she was hiding purchases from 2nd hand stores, sell the books she had read to enabling her to buy something else. She wasn't allowed to keep the ones she liked. if she spoke to me over the fence, he would walk up to listen what was being said, and then tell her ''come on'' if he thought the conversation too boring. He did that to another neighbour I was chatting to on another day too....

If I were you, I would be having a re-think about this relationship and what it provides you.

Thanks changeme4this this is where I get confused, He’s nothing like that.
hes explained he wants to see my wages in the joint account as he feels he is doing it on his own which is fine, obviously if I was a bloke I would get panned.
im nervous because though my hourly wage is ok, it’s very part time and stops over summer.
im just anxious atm.

But surely he would know your hours are seasonal?

you would think, but I’m not sure. - he’s suprised whenever its my worknight, and always just sort of grunts, and says, ‘I’ll go to bed then’ I don’t know whether to feel guilty, tho I think he’s just tired.
I had to put my foot down to take this job. It was part time, and I said I may as well do this as sit at home, it might lead to something else, which it is beginning to. He’s pleased it’s beginning to become more hours, but it’s very sporadic.
Not sure where I’m going with this. I think we are both fed up with each other atm.

Once contempt at that level had arrived its domed