Which dating apps/sites are good?

[GOFL]

Hi,

So as my husband decided to get himself a girlfriend whilst we were married, I figured he’s never coming back to be part of our family. So….after six months, I’m ready to start looking for my Mr Right 2.0 again! This time I have standards!

I do not want a quick one night stand! I’d love a decent guy.

what apps are good? Not Tinder! I downloaded that and a man wearing a hospital gown looking like a vampire put me off!!!!

thank you

How old are you and where do you live?

Hinge is the best app in London for the over-30s - I left Tinder behind in my 20s and I got nowhere with Bumble.

Saying that, all the apps have their problems and OLD is no picnic. It can be fun, but you need thick skin.

Best of luck.

Thank you
I’m in my 40s.
I don’t want a psycho or scammer!!! (Sure nobody does!)

GOFL.....brace yourself. Lots of scammers or people just looking for a one night stand/bit on the side. Good luck. Set your bull shit radar to stun at all times 😂

Haha so true!!

GOFL sorry if I'm being harsh but I've been caught out before. Plenty of fish is just a knocking shop 😂😂 there are some genuine people out there, just need to be ready to look for a needle in a haystack. Good luck and please keep us updated x

Yeah, I’m thinking the same.
I wanted a husband not a fling!! But at my age, I’m wondering if there is a Mr Right out there for me.
im scared the apps seem rather forward! Im not a prude but it’s a loooooong time since i did the whole dating thing!!!

I've been on Bumble for three weeks and the 40-something men on there are a genuine shock. Even the ones who profess to want a long-term relationship can't seem to resist telling you, unprompted, about their sex fantasies once you're a few messages in. I don't think it's just bumble, I think it's OLD, sadly.

Honestly they are all terrible. Brace yourself. I tried POF, Tinder, Bumble and Hinge and it was all the same guys anyway. I would never personally touch any of them again. As long as you have a thick skin. I used to match with someone and if we did swap numbers, I would have a bet with my friend how long before the picture of their aubergine would come through.

I met DP on Tinder 2 years ago

Is it just me though who's dying to see what the hospital gown guy looks like?

It's not the apps that are the problem it's the men aged 40+
All the same ones are on all the apps.
Look in real life.

No 😀

There are lots of terrible guys, but there are some gems in between.

Try not to take it all too seriously- the terrible dates can make great anecdotes in the retelling, and make you realise there are worse things than being single. I've met some great guys who I just didn't have chemistry with, I have laughed at some of the truly terrible profiles and piss-taking and shared them with female friends. It has got its entertaining side in how awful it can be - you just mustn't take it too seriously. And take breaks when it is getting too much.

I made a rule for myself that I would never cancel existing activities (like evening classes and exercise or meeting friends) in favour of a date - men are there to enhance my life, not replace it, and friends and classes will last longer than most men I date.

Watch out for the random dick pics! They come uninvited!

Hey @GOFL What @Crushed23 says makes sense, hope for the best, expect the worst.

My friend got her DH through Hinge. Once you've been and tried OLD you come to appreciate how MN is in contrast to stress of OLD.

I met my DH on Zoosk.

I deleted it, it was that scary!!! Imagine a camera angle from below the chin looking up toward ceiling with hospital gown. It freaked me out so I deleted Tinder!!!! There’s funny then there’s scary!!!!

Oh god!!!!
there’s also a thing about toilets! Why take a selfie in front of toilets?

I think it might depend on location. I see Hinge gets a lot of reccs but for me (north west) it was rubbish.

I met my first post-divorce LTR through Facebook dating, was with him about 9 months. I met my current bf on Tinder - together about 10/11 months so far. Had lots of nice chats and dates from Bumble also. I used to pay for upgrades now and again on Tinder and Bumble so I could either be incognito, or review who'd matched with me first, so I wasn't endlessly pointlessly swiping.

Zoosk, pof were awful. A friend paid for Elite singles and said it was the same dross as on all the free apps. She also did that one where you fill out a huge questionnaire and had zero results. She's not hugely picky either, beautiful, good career, stable etc and very open-minded in terms of her 'type' and basically just the loveliest person so I'm constantly surprised that out of the 2 of us I'm the one who ended up in 2 fairly decent relationships!

The only difference is she is mid 40s and going for the same age men or older, and I was just turned 40 going for 35-45. First bf was same age as me, current is a few years younger than me. There's definitely issues with the 45+ men judging from the messages she's had. I've also never had random dick pics thankfully! But yes, posing in front of urinals is def a thing

@GOFL following this with interest as I am of similar age bracket to you and I have just tried tinder and I don’t get how anyone meets on there?!? I’ve had a scroll through POF and bumble and the same men seem to be on all the sites. I found just being on one time consuming so no idea how people are on them all. What I will say is, you need very thick skin and to take it with a pinch of salt. I also found tinder gave me several matches in the first 24 hours then kept saying such and such has just liked you but I had no more matches after the first day. Makes me think it’s a bit of a con to make you pay.

I have just tried tinder and I don’t get how anyone meets on there

You match, chat and then agree to meet - or not.

Hi
yep!

Hi…
so I wanted to update this thread…
I was petrified of online dating and I hadn’t dated for 20yrs! But I had to get out there and try so a weekend or so after I wrote this thread, I put my photo on a site. Scared to death!!! I needed to see if anyone would find me attractive so that’s why I did it.
someone started chatting to me and I liked him. We’ve been on 3 amazing dates and I really like him! I’ve come off the apps and I’m happy! He’s making me so happy!
we are very different and he’s not my “type” usually but I told myself my “type” ended up being a cheat and a liar so Obviously I needed to change my “type!”
i feel so lucky. I was honestly so scared but wanted to say to anyone in the same position…try it and have some fun!!!

Fabulous

Fantastic update!
I'm on Hinge in London. Although I struggle to find guys that appeal to me, I've had some very nice conversations and dates. Perhaps I'm an outlier, but I've never received any body part pics, messages about fantasies or any of the other nonsense lots of you seem to get. I made sure that in the pics my body is completely covered and my shape is not that visible as I'd heard from friends about these disgusting messages. Or perhaps a 49 yr old mum who is also quite tall doesn't appeal as much 😁

Hi…. I know this is random but it’s now nearly a year since I went on my first date with a ‘random’ I met on Elite Singles. We chatted for about a month before meeting which was great for me and he took me out. He’s honestly amazing. I got so lucky. When I was in a spin after finding my husband cheated, I was told to write down what I wanted from a partner. I stuck to it and found someone who matches that secret list I wrote.

I just wanted to say, maybe online dating isn’t so bad! Xxx he was the only one I dated so I don’t have any funny stories!