False nail in his hoover

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My bf has no interest in sex anymore although is signed of work with chronic pain. Hes been stressing me out since january. I will answer questions regarding this if needed.

I have a fair amount of evidence he likes to dabble in drugs now too so that in itself is a big problem.

I did go round last night and a couple of strands of hair was on his sofa and too light to be mine. He went over to the shop this morning and i emptied his hoover. A womans false nail was in his hoover. I asked the question when he got back. He then said he had found an adidas slider under the bed too. Well weve pulled the bed out before and theres never been stuff under it like that. When i pointed this out he argued it. Then raised his voice at me and said if i didnt trust him to fuck off. Angry i asked for the food and fags hed just got with my card. He threw the food at me then grabbed my arm and pushed me into the hallway.

Would you believe this false nail is innocent? Hes lived in the flat 10 months now.

Just leave.
The relationship is over.

This.

Regardless of the fake nail and the stray hairs he’s not someone I’d be staying in a
relationship with. You’re focusing on the wrong thing here imo.

I'd be more worried about the fact that he threw stuff at you, grabbed your arm and shoved you. Leave. You don't deserve to be treated like this.

Leaving the nail aside, he physically assaulted you op. Why are you even asking about the nail?!

I know i dont trust him and i dont like the company he keeps. Hes changed and i have become immume to the rage

Because he said the nail was innocent and hadnt got in the flat via a female.

Just stop cleaning in someone else's flat !
Why would you do that? Are you his paid cleaner?
And leave because he grabbed you and pushed you

He was violent with you;he physically put his hands on you by grabbing you and pushing you not to mention throwing things at you.

This relationship is over anyway.

Absolutely do not go grovelling back to this poor excuse for a man.

Why wouldn’t other women be queueing up to shag this prince of men? I jest, obviously. Agree with pps, his shouting and violence are far more serious than his possible infidelity. End things and look after yourself.

I was whacking hoover round whilst he picked up food.

Thats a whole lot of reasons not to continue with the relationship.

He's not changed, he just showed you a different side to lure you in. This is the real guy.

I know i am focusing on the nail because the lack of sex etc. He is with me most of the time but if he hasnt cheated hed had people round and an adult relationship should be open and i should know if hes had people round that im unaware of? I know its over he just turned it round onto me so i am paranoid and i hate that

Why are you not focusing on his drug use and him pushing you?
Do you feel you have to have a man even if he’s a shit?

Who was the user who started the thread yesterday asking why the answer is always to leave? I'd like to tag her here as a prime example.

OP; the nail is completely irrelevant. He could be screwing someone else or he might be completely monogamous but either way he's a druggie with aggressive tendencies. Just fuck him off.

Its the way hes tortured me emotionally. Its all bothering me its just that i cant see a logical explanation other than hes lying about it. I am bothered by the drugs and lack of sex. I dont like his new assosiates. I need to walk away im just surely not crazy. It hasnt just pinged into his house and rolled out into a hooverable place. His house is tidy and minimal so it would stand out.

Hes got secrets and thats not normal

He got defensive and violent when you were seeking some reassurance. He’s a pig and you’d be better off without him.
I don’t think it matters if he is or isn’t seeing someone else, the fact that he wouldn’t even validate how you were feeling tells you all you need to know.

It’s also ‘not normal’ that you’re more bothered by evidence of possible infidelity than by his violence towards you!

When someone shows you who they are, believe them. You're too close to see what's really going on. He's distracting you with detail and you're focused in on that, whilst all around you is danger. Look up and you'll see what we see: that the real threat is what you're not looking at. Finish it, now. There's no happy ever after at the end of this street, you can see it, you just don't want to.

He’s a drug user and he physically assaulted you. Why does anything else matter?

Yes, he’s probably lying to you. He’s obviously not a good person judging by the fact he takes drugs and assaults women. I don’t know why you’re surprised that type of man also tells lies. Just get rid of him.

The nail is the last of the issues here.
LTB

How else would a false nail have gotten in his hoover if he hadn't had a woman in the house? There's clear evidence of woman being there. But that sounds like the least of your worries. Get rid.

Does it matter really? You don't like him, so end the relationship.

Bloody hell.
Just read back all you wrote.
Him having a woman in his flat is the least of your problems!

Do you think you have to stay with him no matter how he treats you and can only dump him if he's fucking another woman?