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False nail in his hoover

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Gutinstinct900 · 11/06/2024 08:29

My bf has no interest in sex anymore although is signed of work with chronic pain. Hes been stressing me out since january. I will answer questions regarding this if needed.

I have a fair amount of evidence he likes to dabble in drugs now too so that in itself is a big problem.

I did go round last night and a couple of strands of hair was on his sofa and too light to be mine. He went over to the shop this morning and i emptied his hoover. A womans false nail was in his hoover. I asked the question when he got back. He then said he had found an adidas slider under the bed too. Well weve pulled the bed out before and theres never been stuff under it like that. When i pointed this out he argued it. Then raised his voice at me and said if i didnt trust him to fuck off. Angry i asked for the food and fags hed just got with my card. He threw the food at me then grabbed my arm and pushed me into the hallway.

Would you believe this false nail is innocent? Hes lived in the flat 10 months now.

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MillicentMaybe · 11/06/2024 10:54

Are you very young OP? Please think about what’s really going on here. Whether he’s been with another woman or not is immaterial. He’s a drug user - reason enough to ditch him. Added to that he physically assaulted you.

Close the door on this one and don’t look back. You deserve much better.

Pencilpoint · 11/06/2024 10:56

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Itsonlymashadow · 11/06/2024 10:59

Are you young?

Do you have kids?

ButterCrackers · 11/06/2024 11:00

End the relationship - you don’t need this loser in your life.

LelyKelly23 · 11/06/2024 11:08

OP, I think you may be clutching at the nail thing to give you a clear cut 'excuse' to leave. When I was younger and in an awfully emotionally abusive relationship I was desperate to find concrete evidence he was cheating so I could leave, when really there were MANY reasons I should have left, I didn't need him to cheat. (Even though he did!). The nail is irrelevant to everything else you've mentioned in all honesty, please just leave this man. Is this how you want to live your life? There are better things out in the world for you. Stand up for yourself and just leave, please!

Gutinstinct900 · 11/06/2024 11:11

Im going to leave him.

Hes 51 and im 36.

I know i should have left ages ago. I feel so empty and lost everytime i try leave it. I have seen therapists over the last 4 years and ive never had it in me. Whats wrong with me?

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IncompleteSenten · 11/06/2024 11:31

Change is scary. It's not easy to do something that you know will hurt.

But you're hurting now and it won't stop if you stay. At least if you leave you can have a decent life without him.

CowTown · 11/06/2024 12:28

Would I stay with a man like this? In a word, no.

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