So I'm 28 and single I manage a bar and over the years I've grown quite close to one of the regulars who is late 40s ,I consider him a close friend now ,he's always been there emotionally had great advice etc we talk via social media and in person mostly while I'm at work I've spoken with his wife a couple times he's helped me out with favours diy etc been to his for a bbq ,that's the extent of the relationship we have and up until recently I didn't feel as though anything I was doing was in anyway inappropriate, Until his wife came in to work when it was my day off and I was drinking, asked me to go to the toilets with her so I did thinking maybe she just wanted to talk or needed help or something so ofc I went with her only to discover she was going to lay into me about her husband and I, She accused me of having an affair called me a stupid little slg screaming asking how long etc I kept saying there's nothing going on he's just my friend I kept saying why are you accusing me of this etc she said she saw him messaging me ,I tried to show her the messages she wasn't interested just kept on calling me names saying she knows my type and how it's my fault he sleeps in a spare bed (didn't know this or have any idea of his issues with her etc It's not like we talk about that stuff) then I said I'm mot listening to this you need to talk to your husband because I have not done anything wrong here and tried to leave the toilet and she literally grabbed me from behind as I was walking out and then threw me against the wall ,a 50 year old grown woman and then put her hand like on my neck pinning me to the wall so I was like erm get the fck off of me don't touch me! She started calling me a dirty slapper! And didn't let go so I like pushed her back and said f*ck off you freak and literally ran out the toilets and then she didn't follow I drank abit of my drink that was left on the bar then saw her leave the whole pub I was like shaking and sorta in shock then my friend that was working asked wtf are you okay you seem so weird so I told him and started crying then told him anyway, I called in sick the next day from the anxiety and I've ignored his messages (the husband's).
What do all of you think about this did I cross a line ? Would you react like that if you saw your husband was messaging the local younger bar maid ? I know the physical part was wrong but I mean to think he's having an affair ? Was it inappropriate to engage in a friendship ,is it my fault? Do I tell him what happened? is she unreasonable? what's the next steps ,what if she starts telling other people then I'm like known as a homewrecker when I truly know it's absolutely nothing like that !! Do I meet up to talk with her or just ignore it ,I don't knowwww