DH ignores my boobs, yet his social media is very boob orientated

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Been with DH for 10 years, and in that time he has never once shown any interest in my boobs. Never touched them or wanted to see them. I thought it was a bit odd, but left it at that. Some guys are maybe not into boobs I thought.

Anyway, I recently decided to open social media accounts after never really having them before. TikTok, Instagram, Twitter and Pinterest. I went to add people from my phone book, and DH was on there (all but Pinterest.

To my surprise he is following purely porn accounts, or good looking women. Most of them are flashing their boobs, so it’s very heavily boob orientated. No particular theme (ie small or extra large boobs, many with boobs my size)

Aside from being pissed off he is drooling over random women, I’m left puzzled as to why he would rather stare at pixels than show interest in my real boobs. I have never turned him down, in fact he is the one with a low sex drive (obviously the right hand is getting the action).

What gives? Why would he prefer random boobs over mine? I feel so hurt and suddenly self conscious about my boobs 🙁

Perhaps he's in the closet but wants others to think he's a red blooded male attracted to women

Have tried to read this three times and still do not understand?

Your boobs need to be 'nice' otherwise of course your DH will look elsewhere

Boobs become less attractive to men as they age, so they need more stimulation.

But also it doesn't matter if they're 'nice' after all, because...?

Have you asked him, had a discussion?

It does seem a bit odd.

He obviously loves boobs but doesn't know what to do with them 😂

On a serious note I wouldn't be happy, it's very strange.

It's strange really to be wanking over seeing an image instead of having actual sex.

Men are so weird, it's like they're animals in a zoo acting out 😂

I'd say he doesn't have a low sex drive, he just can't be bothered with actual sex because it involves having to make effort to make you orgasm too. He'd rather just have a wank and look at pictures. Is he this selfish in other areas of your life?

I doubt he prefers the online boobs to yours, it sounds like he simply can't be bothered with sex. A wank is easier, after all, as you don't have to worry about giving pleasure.

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Been with DH for 10 years, and in that time he has never once shown any interest in my boobs. Never touched them or wanted to see them. I thought it was a bit odd, but left it at that.

What?? 😱😱😱 did you never ask him??

I have tiny tits and would not be bothered if a boyfriend didn’t pay attention to them. I barely notice them myself. I have other ‘attributes’ and not all men are boob men anyway (most are all about the arse, I’ve found).

I'm just flabbergasted by this thread and many of the responses.

Your bar must be so so low to have firstly married someone who shows no interest in a sensitive part of your body which would be pleasant for you, and secondly to have an op so 'meh, never mind' about discovering your husband is a complete sleaze. And worse, you've taken this as some kind of personal rejection instead of entirely his fault.

This site never fails to surprise/disgust me in what women will put up with.

I thought the exact same. How, just how can that not be the logical conclusion from this discovery.

Hes not in to you or your boobs op....its as simple as that really, it would be over for me, the disrespect and disregard would be too much for me to ignore.

Aw OP, that would really bother me too. Ask him directly.

@Crushed23 but he's looking at loads of other women's boobs, so I can see why OP thinks it's not simply a case of him not being a boob man. Your tits are irrelevant to this, it's about OP.

I have tiny tits and would not be bothered if a boyfriend didn’t pay attention to them. I barely notice them myself. I have other ‘attributes’ and not all men are boob men anyway (most are all about the arse, I’ve found).

I don't mean to sound patronising, but that's a bit of a sad way to view things. Even with small boobs, you expect your partner to be attracted to you.

I guess anyone with small boobs and bum would be fucked (or not, as the case may be).

Not just big assets are worthy of attention, and your partner should love and desire your whole body - (cringe, but true)

I agree with this.. I have small boobs and my partner gives them no attention. It’s weird for me but makes me feel self conscious as they really shrunk when I was going through separation with my ex h. I find it weird as dp puts alot of effort into sex and other aspects of the relationship .., I want to bring it up but don’t know how really!

Why is he following accounts like that when he is married? What a pervert

I don't understand why you would put up with not only a shit sex life but also a sleazebag who is openly following porn accounts.

I had an ex like this. He wouldn't have sex with me in the end and I found out he was a serious porn addict. He blew big money on it. I don't go out with men who use porn now after what he put me through.

Who gives a shit what men want?

Who gives a shit what men want?

WTF are you on about? I'm trying to make sense of someone else's comment?

Also, most people care if their partner finds them attentive or not but you do you. Maybe OP should just not give a shit if her OP ignores her body and watches other women

I think pp was agreeing with you and saying it's irrelevant what men want.

Yes. Sorry, I was just having a random outburst 😂. Not disagreeing with you. I probably shouldn't have quoted your comment.

Mine are not as pretty after breastfeeding for 3 years but my other half still loves to look/touch! Don't let it affect your self esteem because it's definitely a him problem.

Geez, he is one lazy lover, to an extreme. How have you let him get away with ignoring your boobs for 10 years?! Does he just do what he wants sex-wise, on the odd occasion he's up for the effort?
Doesn't matter if he likes them or not, to a woman they are erogenous and should be explored (except for some women who don't like it). It kinda shows that he's not a person who gets turned on by giving pleasure, just all about receiving. He's crap in bed in other words. Just poor in general, nothing to do with you as this has been so from the start.
He could be looking at their faces, or the overall shapes and curves of their outline, they just happen to have boobs too, goes with the territory. Its you who has linked it to boobs in your head, when really, it might not be that as a main feature. Unfortunately, he's all about the fantasy, and reality is he's a damp squib. He has more to have low self-esteem about than you do in that regard, it's personal to him and not about the outside world of reality.
So much all about his own jollies, that he'd rather have a minimal effort wank.
So, what do you find attractive about him? Sounds a big turnoff to me. Yet is he in his head worrying about how unsatisfactory he is in the sack all his life? I doubt it, so quit criticising yourself.
It's up to you if occasional crap sex is something you're happy to put up with within your marriage, given that you have for 10 + years so far, maybe you are.