PLEASE HELP???!! I’m absolutely livid don’t know what to do??

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cut along story short
split up with partner of 14 years
used a dating site you know a bit of a ego boost maybe a date.

a ex pops up, we have always both had a thing for each other since forever, we are messaging for about 2 weeks maybe 3 he tells me he’s always loved me always thought about me played a specific song he used to play to me 15 years ago met him once just for a quick chat whilst I was out on my evening stupid walk he was quite suprised at how I looked, (bit of a glow up lost a lot of weight etc) he cuddles me run his hands through back of my hair just genuine missed you hug said he was falling in love with me etc all the bull. He then starts saying he is struggling with his mental health he’s mum is selling his family home he will be homeless he has some health issues etc so I’m like ok let me help I can be there for you etc at this point I’ve severely caught feels and am ready to try a relationship with this bloke. Bang he just wants to be friends needs a friend I kick up a bit of a fuss and say how can you say this when you know how I feel. Anyway I ok it and we chat for one afternoon as friends he’s different doesn’t really wanna chat. And finally he’s blocked
me on social media. Wtf did I do? No contact day 3 nothing. What would you all be thinking, genuinely don’t know how to feel at this point apart from pretty angry.
i don’t doubt anyone’s mental health but was almost like he was scared of something and had to cut me off quick
any advice I’m literally going out my mind.

thank you to anyone that can talk any sense to me to help
xxx

He wanted somewhere to stay and you didn't provide it. Good thing for you tbh.

He wasn’t scared. He was trying to use you as free accommodation and didn’t get what he wanted, so discarded you.

Sounds like a big wadge of drama in a short amount of time.

Be glad he blocked you. Best thing all round.

Sounds like he's found a meal ticket.

Count your lucky stars that it wasn't you.

I'm so sorry OP.

he was hoping to move in, wanted free board and lodgings - you didn''t invite him so hes gone elsewhere- no doubt some one will fall for the sob story, there is always someone gullible enough for these men.

Don't be livid, be thrilled you dodged a cock lodger.

Whooooooooshhhhhhh.....

That's the sound of the bullet that just missed you.

Aww OP it sounds like he loved bombed you, he was either looking for an ego boost or perhaps somewhere to stay or someone to be his emotional crutch but when he’s realised you’re more invested he’s cut it off.

Its really shit and disappointing when you open yourself up, especially to someone
you believe cares about you but it sounds like it’s for the best. He doesn’t sound like a catch, but just a lot of drama.

Have a bit of a cry and rant about it then draw a line and move forward. Have a bit of time to yourself before trying dating again.

Thank you so much oh god this forum is brilliant I didn’t even think for a moment he wanted a meal ticket but yeh thinking outside the box maybe that’s it he’s found a meal ticket else where! Surely there can’t be any other reason x

So mummy was selling his house, or rather her house? My bet is that that was the only way to get him out of it.

So now he's looking for another house to live in. Of course to do that he has to talk to more than one person. You can't put all your eggs in one basket can you? Someone with less sense than you has obviously offered him a place to lay his head. I'm sure he knew that you would have him sussed in no time. He's gone for someone who will take a little bit longer.

No one falls in love as fast as a man who needs somewhere to live.

You successfully dodged a cock lodger is what you did!
Be proud of yourself.

He wasn't single

I thought this 🙄

So mummy was selling his house, or rather her house? My bet is that that was the only way to get him out of it.

😂 Probably. Poor woman.

It's interesting that his own mother who surely knows he has mh issues wants rid of him. That tells a lot. I think he saw you as a meal ticket. Do not accept this guy back no matter what he says.

Do not have a relationship with a grown man who's been living with their mother for years, bad idea.
Also, a bad sign is lovebombing. First time you've met in years and he's already saying he's in love with you - utter BS. You might want to consider why you ignored the lovebombing red flags, if aiming to continue with OLD. You need to be a good BS detective for it.

He played on your emotions and reminiscing about the past to get a shag and a roof over his head.

When you didn’t offer either he moved on to his next target.

Bullet dodged I’d say

One word: cocklodger.

This cannot be repeated often enough.

Mums kicked him out, he hoped you'd offer free board and lodgings. He's done you a favour, don't give this cf headspace.

You have dodged yourself a cocklodger! Well done girl 💅💃

Nothing more attentive than about to be homeless man (or woman).

Block him back everywhere OP and forget this ever happened

I am sorry but that post is unreadable. You must learn how to punctuate sentences.
Hopefully other posters will help you.

What post are you talking about Miss