PLEASE HELP???!! I’m absolutely livid don’t know what to do??

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cut along story short
split up with partner of 14 years
used a dating site you know a bit of a ego boost maybe a date.

a ex pops up, we have always both had a thing for each other since forever, we are messaging for about 2 weeks maybe 3 he tells me he’s always loved me always thought about me played a specific song he used to play to me 15 years ago met him once just for a quick chat whilst I was out on my evening stupid walk he was quite suprised at how I looked, (bit of a glow up lost a lot of weight etc) he cuddles me run his hands through back of my hair just genuine missed you hug said he was falling in love with me etc all the bull. He then starts saying he is struggling with his mental health he’s mum is selling his family home he will be homeless he has some health issues etc so I’m like ok let me help I can be there for you etc at this point I’ve severely caught feels and am ready to try a relationship with this bloke. Bang he just wants to be friends needs a friend I kick up a bit of a fuss and say how can you say this when you know how I feel. Anyway I ok it and we chat for one afternoon as friends he’s different doesn’t really wanna chat. And finally he’s blocked
me on social media. Wtf did I do? No contact day 3 nothing. What would you all be thinking, genuinely don’t know how to feel at this point apart from pretty angry.
i don’t doubt anyone’s mental health but was almost like he was scared of something and had to cut me off quick
any advice I’m literally going out my mind.

thank you to anyone that can talk any sense to me to help
xxx

Others have already managed to quite easily understand and offer advice

Hopefully you can see him for the pathetic excuse of a man he is

"Mummy's selling the house I don't know what to do?"

So he gets depressed and expects a long list flame to flock to his golden penis.

The new free housing didn't materialise so he sulks like a toddler and blocks social media. What a hero.

It takes 3-6 months to sell a house plenty of time to find another victim landlady or a place of his own like a proper grown up

And isn't it weird that there appears to be no one else at all to help him out, in all these years, no one?

What a lucky escape you have had OP.

Have a nice weekend

Wonder if his mum is selling because it's the only way to get rid of him? It has to have crossed your mind surely?

Sometimes I love this site. Totally this!!

OP's

Patronising much?

Always be wary of a man who needs somewhere to live or is about to need somewhere to live. They're not scared of anything except having to be an adult and getting their own place. No one's problems are your responsibility. If you meet a man and he starts listing issues just walk away. A new relationship should be fun and exciting not having to deal with problems from the start.

He's married / has a gf?

He wanted you to adopt him with free accommodation and warm meals. Nothing romantic, just taken advantage of you.
You have dodge a canon bullet here.

Did you mean to be such a bitch? The rest of us understood it.

You were one of more than one option and he chose another option.

He's a user.

He wanted a free therapist and a roof over his head. Block him so he can't reappear when he's down on his luck again

Re-reading your op, what exactly was he offering you other than a few compliments? He was made homeless, had health issues and mental health issues. This would cause most people to run a mile. You need to work on your self esteem before dating.

Barely

An ex is an ex for a reason, stay clear of previous romantic interests. They failed already, you’re just going backwards.

I think the phase "Lucky escape" was coined exactly for this type of scenario

Plenty of other less arsey people have managed to understand it

Hmmmmm......how convenient that he pops up just as mummy is selling "his family home" aka HER house.
Beware of him coming back again schmoozing you when he's failed to find another mug to house and feed him!!

I get the impression you’d like people to say “Yes you’re right. He was clearly scared by the power of his feelings for you and backed off before he got hurt”.

Nah. That’s not what happened.

PP are absolutely right OP, he was looking for a mug to cocklodge with.

Well done on avoiding!

I can't agree what a fuckin idiot I am, absolutely zero self esteem your bang on! X

Probably lol I'm such a mug x thanks

This is exactly what I thought

Don’t worry OP. When he gets kicked out of his new place he will be back and love bombing you again.

I would bet a large amount of money that he will unblock you and be back again for round two of this bollocks. You need to really be ready to block him at that point.

I doubt other posters will help her, unless we’re raging bitches, which it appears we’re not. It seems we’ve all been able to read it as well. Perhaps you might need the help?

Also, the one thing going for your post, the only thing, is it’s nearly a haiku. Nearly a haiku can be your achievement for the day