My husband just screamed in my face In front of our sons.

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Totally out of the blue. We (myself and the boys) returned from a village fete where both boys had won a coconut. Lots of sugar and fun and they were pestering me to open them.

My husband said maybe two times "Mummy" but I thought he was talking to them reminding to ask them nicely. He then snapped a bit saying why are you ignoring me. I followed him to the loo trying to explain that it was crossed wires when he went crazy. Saying, do you fucking try to front me up like that and fucking, fuck off etc whilst he tried to slam the door in my face.

I took the boys outside to smash their coconuts and he went to work out of the other door.

Apart from the elder boy 10, observing that 'Daddy's got anger issues' there just carried on asusual and I'm trying not to cry in the kitchen. What the funking??

I am also married to a man with serious anger issues. We separated almost a year ago, after years of me being shouted and sworn at, and then long periods of things being ‘okay’ before it happened again. I finally decided I couldn’t carry on any longer, both for my own sanity, and the wellbeing of the kids.
If you want/hope that things can improve, then you need to address it with your husband now. Hopefully he will be able to recognise that his behaviour isn’t okay, and that it makes you really unhappy. Otherwise it’s only going to get worse, your children will pick up on it more and more, and it’s not fair on anyone.
Don’t let it fester.
Good luck.

Why were you following him to the toilet?

She said to explain. I think I know what you are getting at - I would find it a bit annoying if I was trying to walk away from an argument and someone followed me to continue it. But do bear in mind OP didn't think they were in an argument at that point.

Why does he call you mummy??

Read the thread, it's only on page 2

She just says she doesn't think it's odd. Doesn't mean it isn't or explain it.

I still think it's weird. There's 2 kids trying to get her attention and her partner, a grown adult, gets upset when his cries of 'Mummy' aren't heard. That's freakin' odd.

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