Hello,
I'm not sure what to think. First time posting. I know my husband was wrong calling me names but he seems to think it was just a mistake and I should just get over it.
He said that his mum hates me because she can see right through me. He said I didn't stay in my last job because everyone hated me and could see right through me.
He called me a knob, a fucking bitch, a frigid bitch, useless, said I bring nothing to the relationship. He said that he's going to leave me, that I will have to fight for custody. He told me that my whole life will come crashing down around me.
During this argument, I just kept repeating "Stop it, stop insulting me, stop it", every time he called me names. He often does this, so I got my phone and started recording the conversation just so I can remember because often after he will be nice, or maybe just normal, I'm not sure what normal is?
He stayed away for a week after that argument and signed up to an online dating app. He then came back after a week, and said that he was sorry but finds me difficult.
This happened a month ago. I had told him before that I will not accept him speaking / shouting at me like that. Previously he has punched two holes in the bedroom wall when I said I didn't want to have sex with him, and he hit the car door once when i was driving because he didn't like what I was saying.
For the last month, since the last argument, I have refused to let him kiss me, go anywhere near me etc... I do not want to be anywhere near him. We both own the house and I cannot leave. I am saving up money so I can leave.
Last night he told me that I have been punishing him for the last month and that he had only just insulted me once and it was just a mistake. I said no it wasn't just once and I said I recorded it and he was outraged that I recorded it but didn't seem to care about all the name calling???
How can I make it through the next months without feeling I am going absolutely crazy??? Surely insulting your own wife and mother of your children is not just a mistake?