I keep forgetting important things people tell me. I never inquire or check out with them how things went.
Examples:
- Mum had a minor procedure, local anaesthetic, in and out of hospital within hours. She told me a few days before that it was happening on that Thursday (example) coming. She called me a week later, I didn't acknowledge the procedure at all (I had completely forgotten) and she casually dropped in the conversation that she was a bit sore etc. Eventually, it dawned on me that shit yes she was having xyz!
- Dad was having a minor operation as well, this time full anesthesia, he told me a month before that at X date of May he was going in for his operation. Anyway, we are now in May and a few days ago I was thinking that I haven't talked to him in a while. I was trying to remember when we last spoke and then I remembered the conversation we had about his operation that was happening in May... Needless to say the date has come and gone, he is out of hospital and has been out for days and I never once called to see how it went, how he is feeling etc.
I feel guilty. I don't know why I don't seem to care enough to remember. The examples above were the worst things I have forgotten over the years. I also forget appointments and important results they have waited to hear from doctors etc.
With friends as well, they will tell me for example they have a big interview in 2 days, well by the end of the phone call I would have already forgotten and I might remember a week or two later when I am contemplating how is xyz friend.
Am I just too self centered? I have realised I have become worse with the years. I am aware I have an issue and when I push myself mentally I do inquire about how things went but it's like, and this will sound awful, another thing to add to my to-do-list because I know if I don't it might upset people.