And just like that.....this man comes into my life, and its amazing

[Illbefinejustbloodyfine]

A positive post. I've been single a long time. Separated from husband 7 yrs ago. He was controlling, coercive, refused to seek help for very obvious mh problems

I've been single with 2 DC ever since. They were very very small when he left, babies.

I've been OK on my own. 24/7 mum, it's been hard, but OK. No desire to pursue a relationship or OLD.

Then....I accidentally meet someone through a hobby and oh my god. Nearly 6 months in, it's been a slow burn but it's bloody amazing. He's SO nice. Thoughtful and considerate, open. Easy to talk to. Kind, generous. Everything.

It’s so nice to read a feel good story for once. Good luck to you both. He sounds like a keeper. 😘

Thank you, that's really why I posted. There's so many negative stories.

Who knows how it will turn out, all I know if I'm enjoying every minute.

Oh this is lovely. I'm happy for you.
Tell us more..... If there are problems, does he just talk them through, listen to your worries and find a way through together?

YAY! Hope it lasts for you @Illbefinejustbloodyfine

@DirtyCheeseBurger yes! He's a great one for talking things through. I am much more closed off (leftover conditioning from my marriage). Its refreshing to have rational, adult conversations about things .

It really is lovely. He is lovely.

@SabreIsMyFave so do I! But, I am just enjoying it for now. The logistics are a bit tricky, I'm not sure what would happen long term (my dc mostly, I'm not rushing in...) but it's all so good.

Excellent! What was the hobby?

So happy for you, long may it continue. You deserve it.

Its nice to hear something good, OP. Thanks for sharing, and may it go well for you both. 🌺

Aw this is just lovely. And does he look after you when you need it, and have your back?

Aw that's lovely! How exciting for you :)

Have you said I love yous yet??

@DirtyCheeseBurger yes, he really does. It seems like he really cares, he wants me to be happy. I can talk to him about anything.

@AliceCallous no, not yet. But the feelings are definitely there for me.

Ooh, I bet. He must be a good egg.

I'm envious! This stage of a relationship is magical with the right person. Lucky you.

It really is. It makes me wonder HOW I married the man I did. I was never this relaxed with him.

And I do feel so bloody lucky.

What a lush thread!
I'm a single mum to two little ones too. I long to meet the right person (not just any person!). I know how hard the solo parenting is which makes me so happy to read this has happened to you!
Long may it continue ❤️

LTB…. lol 😂

He sounds fab! I found mine 18 months ago and he is still gorgeous and he moved in and I’m so happy. There are lovely guys out there and I’m really happy for you that you found yours 😍

@blacksocks33 the strange thing is, I wasn't looking. I wasn't open to it at all. I was happy on my own, not interested or keen to have a relationship. I genuinely couldn't see how I could, even if I was interested

I did a lot of overthinking at the start but once we'd established that we were "together" and I realised we really can talk about anything, it's been so easy.

Thanks @SpringleDingle it's bloody amazing isnt it? I have always said I coukdnt imagine living with anyone else, but that's because I couldn't imagine meeting someone I'd be happy to live with.

Aww, how lovely. So nice to read a happy thread. Good luck to you op, enjoy.

@Illbefinejustbloodyfine that's nice to hear 💐💐. He sounds lovely and I wish you luck for the future.

I met mine 6yrs ago after a shitty marriage and I still can't believe how easy to get on with he is. He's everything I needed/wanted. I spent ages waiting for the red flags to appear as he was younger, never lived with anyone before and never had what I'd consider a long term relationship. It's just so easy and worry free and we now have 2 kids that he's a great dad to.

😊this thread was a nice read. Thanks for posting!

I wasn't looking. I wasn't open to it at all. I was happy on my own

I think this is a great sign! It means you were free in your mind to choose someone who only enhances your life, rather than feeling like you need to find someone because you don't like being single. Best way in my opinion.

Happy for you and it's nice to see a post like this on here. Everyone deserves happiness 😊

Lovely post. I’m in a similar position - single, happy and full life for 7 years and not looking at all for anyone to get in the way of that. Then oh my god, right under my nose at the hospital I work in is a absolute diamond of a man, and my world has turned upside down. The feelings when you’re with the right person are indescribable. Enjoy OP!