And just like that.....this man comes into my life, and its amazing

[Illbefinejustbloodyfine]

A positive post. I've been single a long time. Separated from husband 7 yrs ago. He was controlling, coercive, refused to seek help for very obvious mh problems

I've been single with 2 DC ever since. They were very very small when he left, babies.

I've been OK on my own. 24/7 mum, it's been hard, but OK. No desire to pursue a relationship or OLD.

Then....I accidentally meet someone through a hobby and oh my god. Nearly 6 months in, it's been a slow burn but it's bloody amazing. He's SO nice. Thoughtful and considerate, open. Easy to talk to. Kind, generous. Everything.

Oh wow @Walnutair that's exactly how I feel! And he's in a similar position, also single for a similar time, full and happy life then...wham!

All the best OP, I too found a wonderful man after a bad first marriage and years of single parenthood. We have now been married for a number of years and he is more wonderful than ever. There are nice men out there!

How lovely! Congratulations and thank you for sharing, it's so nice to have some positivity from time to time amidst all the doom and gloom!

Only on another post yesterday they were saying only posts are about shit men so this is good to hear and enjoy!
I come from similar situation to you and found my dp of 4 years on old ( I only wanted fwb kind of relationships ) then on first date when I met him he said he was dating to get married! Once you’ve been in an abusive relationship sometimes appreciating the reality of a good man can be a bit overwhelming but so bloody good 😊

Lovely post @Illbefinejustbloodyfine - who knew relationships could be so fun and happy and EASY?! In 2022 I (finally) ended my 21 year relationship with exH and my god, the relief of no longer being held hostage to his terrifying moods and treading on eggshells.

Today I came home to a gorgeous bunch of flowers on the doorstep - it’s my 1 year anniversary with my amazing boyfriend, who was actually my high school sweetheart in the late 90s. We lost contact for 25 years, he messaged me on Linkedin literally completely out of the blue as my marriage was falling apart, and in May last year we met in New York for what I thought might at best be a lovely post split fling with someone lovely … we are totally, totally smitten, we live on different continents so spend inordinate amounts of time and money seeing each other, we chat on the phone for hours at a time and message incessantly like teenagers (like the teenagers we were when we met in 1998). I just love him to bits and he is the kindest, most emotionally healthy, most decent man I have ever met. I feel so lucky. I think back to a few years ago, I felt so lonely and so resentful all the time. Life can be amazing and I feel really proud of myself that I had the courage to realise there was more waiting for me, even though it was a huge leap into the unknown (with two small children). I wish you every happiness!

Thanks for posting some lovely positivity, very refreshing & uplifting to read x

I'm enjoying everyone else's posts too and so much resonates. I too feel like a teenager, people keep commenting that I look nice or seem happy, and cheerful, like I've got a spring in my step.

It's SUCH a difference to most of my marriage, and even when it was good it was nothing like this.

Ahhh, lovely!

Joining this positive thread as I need hope for myself. Scared after partner of 20 yrs leaving for other younger woman. Single 2 yrs now, 2 small kids 5&6

Have you introduced to your kids yet .
Does he have kids?
Trying to hear the back story

This is so lovely,

I'm a firm believer of finding the one when you aren't looking.

Met my DP 3 years ago. After 8 years on my own, a few years disastrous dating online. The final straw was the guy I was seeing for 10 weeks got his ex wife pregnant behind my back. I deleted all apps, became happy and content on my own,

2 months later I met DP in the local pub, he was out for his birthday. Lived in the village all his life, I knew a lot of his friends. He knew a lot of mine but we'd never met until that night,

We get married in 4 months. It took a lot for me to completely open up to him and let him in so to speak but he was genuinely so lovely and patient!

I hope it continues to go well for you

Love this post, congrats to you both … sounds perfect and like he’s a keeper 🥂😊

What a wonderful thread-it gives me hope of finding someone too.
Wishing you all happiness for many years to come

@randomnamechange2024 Well it seems there is hope yet! I honestly can't understand how or why this has come about but I'm so glad it has.

He hasn't met my DC. Their dad is difficult to say the least, so they won't know until I'm happy for their dad to know .

He does have Dc but much older.

We just get on so well. Have similar interests, enjoy a lot of the same things. It's honestly amazing.

@MessyNeate congratulations! I have also been quite guarded, but have come to think I need to be open and take the risk. Its worth it.

Yay! I have a lovely one too, OP. 9 years and counting. He’s just the most wonderful, kind, funny, man and he treats me like he still can’t quite believe his luck.

What was the hobby!?

♥️ I'm joining too, this thread's lovely & giving me hope that I'll be lucky like you too OP.

My hobbies are a bit feminine though, knitting, sewing, crafts etc. Not sure I'll meet any blokes there. 🫤

Oh it's so nice when it finally clicks. After both having long and miserable relationships and break ups me and DP found eachother and 8 years in still madly in love ❤️

That’s so lovely OP. I bumped into DH on the day I decided to give up on men and that I didn’t need anyone - genuinely felt, for the first time probably ever and then wham. That was 18 years ago!