Says its Banter

[SarahM180]

My partner says things as banter that are really hurtful twice he has insulted my private parts saying it looks battered and that its a massive gap also i have been very ill and trying to do things to help myself try to get better and he says its in my head i said this is hurtful but he just gets angry says its banter and does not care about my feelings and deflects onto somthing else that bothers him that has nothing to do with the conversation i am sick of being insulted what would you do?

Get out. You're hurt and he doesn't apologise. Even if he is joking, if you're not laughing then it isn't a joke to you.

He sounds vile

Fuck him off out of it. Who needs that in their lives

Get rid of him and tell him he has a cock that looks like the nose of a wizened garden gnome.

I would dump him. I would have dumped him the first time he said it. Well, way before that,because I'm sure he had already revealed himself as a twat.

I would get rid of him. It's not banter, it's saying twattish things.

That's how my abusive ex started, "banter". Followed with smacking my backside as a "joke", hard enough to leave bruises more than once. Holding my hand so tight it hurt, especially when he knew I was having a flare up making my hands already painful. Ended with him trying to choke me.
Don't accept his banter, invalidating your feelings or his degrading insults. If you can't get an apology and a termination of this behaviour, terminate the relationship.
You deserve respect.

Don't you deserve better than this?

It's big banter. It's hurtful bullying and he's doing it to see how far he can go.

Run like the wind!

I once had a partner who bit me as a joke. It escalated to him choking me until I almost passed out

*not banter

I’d leave. I’d have left the first time he said it. We all have different boundaries.
You’ve told him it upsets you and it hasn’t changed his behaviour.

Banter is a word bullies and abusive twats use to silence you …. Insinuating that you can’t take a joke then the “banter” gets more and more rude. Run for the hills as his “banter” will only get worse not nicer

I'd tell him his cock's too small for your massive gap and you're off to find someone with a much bigger one.

Dump him. Also it doesn't sound like even knows what vulvas look like. They are all different and all gorgeous.

I have large inner labia and no one has ever complained... I personally find them sexy.

He sounds like he has weird sex hangups.

End it.

does not care about my feelings and deflects onto somthing else that bothers him that has nothing to do with the conversation

Look up the DARVO technique.

Then dump him.

He doesn't respect you or your feelings.

I would not put up with being treated like that. Banter my arse, he means it.

Yes, though possibly on the phone after I'd left, as he sounds like a nasty piece of work.

That’s horrible. Like others i would have got rid of him the first time he said it.

He sounds like a nasty piece of work. Are you living together or separately? Keeping my fingers crossed it's separately as you need to get rid of him asap.

He’s a nasty bullying abusive cunt who doesn’t give a shit about you or your feelings

Tell him to fuck off and enjoy life without this massive wanker

He's vile. You need to leave him.

So often they say "Oh it's just banter" when actually it is deliberately done in order to upset you.

It is not banter, it is abusive.

My ex used to say things to me and then say "its just a joke". Then if I got angry and tried to call him out, he would turn it around on me. Don't waste your time, he doesn't even like you. You deserve better.

He dislikes women but needs one to have sex with. That's you. Basically a living blow up doll he can treat how he likes because there you are taking it all from him.

I’d dump him.

He’s a cunt right through to the bone. You can tell him that and that he’s a humorless fuck, if he didn’t recognize it as Bants, like.

SeriouSly, just get rid.