Been seeing a man (45) for about a year.
He's 9 years older. He initially told me he was 2 years younger than he is and confessed a couple of months in.
I let it go, thinking he was a bit insecure (and wondering what the point of knocking only 2 years off was).
He is a widower with a number of teenage kids.
He says he would like more kids, my Mum told me he's telling me what I want to hear.
I have now discovered that he's been lying by omission about taking heart medication and representing what his son told me was a heart attack, as something very minor that was due to stress. He didn't say the words heart attack at any point and I didn't get the impression it was one.
I found out about the medication because he was in hospital for something minor and totally unrelated, and a nurse mentioned it. He realised she was going to and tried to get me out of ear shot by asking me to go and get something for him, but didn't do it fast enough.
He has told me he had a family history of heart problems but that anyone in his family who's gotten checked out and taken medication, has done fine.
In addition to this, he is a smoker to; but he said he wanted to give up. I organised smoking cessation for him, which he attended and was very enthusiastic about, but he is still smoking. Probably not as much but ...
He seems to reach for a cigarette every time he has, even minor, stress - which is often, given he has teenage kids.
Am I being unfair to feel he's not a great candidate for having kids with, and be irritated by the lying (and the fact he isn't giving up smoking)?