Hi
so I’ve been with my partner for 8 months very new relationship I have one son from my previous marriage who gets on great with my partner. However, my gut is telling me something is wrong and I can’t shake this feeling. I struggle to trust men after a really messy 13 year long relationship where physical emotional and financial abuse was present and numerous different women resulting in him getting one pregnant whilst still with me, then the messy divorce that followed left me in quite a lot of debt and a nervous wreck I still struggle to believe someone I loved could treat me the way my ex husband did and we have been separated for 7 years. He sees my son they have a good relationship my son is 18. I am now fully out of debt it’s taken me years I don’t own a lot but what I do own is mine and I have a nice life with my child I work full time.
back to my current situation I have been single three years after a two year relationship ended I was ok being single, met my current partner and got swept off my feet he’s amazing in many ways. He told me at the start he’s never been faithful in any of his relationships his whole life not even to the mother of his children but that he is a changed man he had learnt how bad he was and he was selfish etc but I can’t get past this why am I any different? Why wouldn’t he cheat on me? We spend a lot of time together not every night but say 4-5 nights a week but on the nights he’s at his the next day he’s either sending me messages about how he loves me so much and can’t wait to see me or he’s distant. I find this strange like a guilty conscience, Yesterday he came to my house after work and we were making food we were talking about vitamin D and he said you only get vitamin d from me don’t you? I said yes of course. Twice he asked me who text me on my phone and then he said what are you doing on your phone? But Thursday morning he woke up in a bad mood and snapped at me saying did you go through my phone? I said no I didn’t he accepted this because I won’t ever go through anyone’s phone and left without saying bye then text me and said how sorry he was for snapping it was because he opened his phone to a new tab that wasn’t there the night before then changed this to my battery hadn’t charged. Other things he has taken to his Xbox for hours at a time all of a sudden not something that interests me but everyone should have a hobby anyway he won’t talk to me while he’s playing says he can’t message etc but today he said that he messages ppl on the game through an app on his phone! Back to last night I just asked him out right why do you keep asking about my phone have you been messaging someone I feel like you’ve got a guilt conscience and he said I’m not going to sit here with someone who doesn’t trust me etc. so he went home. I’ve just got a nagging feeling and I can’t explain it. Is it me am I the issue I want to be happy ideally with him but are my trust issues going to ruin this?