Dad always calling me fat

[KurtCobainLover]

This probably sounds like a first world problem but here we go. Up until a few years ago I always super thing bordering on the underweight, my dad seemed to be proud of this and would always compliment me on my ‘sporty physique’. Fast forward a couple of years and I have put on weight due to medication prescribed after a breakdown. I don’t like being overweight and am working on getting back down to a healthy weight but it’s a long process and everyone else in life is supportive and say it doesn’t matter what size I am as long as I mentally healthy again.

I completed the Three Peaks in Three Days with work on Thursday and was over the moon that I managed it. I was the slowest and I practically crawled up Ben Nevis but I did it and was happy. I called my parents yesterday and expecting them to be happy for me and the first thing my dad said was that I looked like a blob in my photos and it’s surprising I did it all considering how much extra weight I’m carrying. He then went on about his new vacuum for 20 mins……

I felt completely demolished and now feel flat and that I didn’t really achieve anything…….

How do others deal with it when their parents seem determined to drag them down?

Your dad is a cunt. Whether he deliberately puts you down or it's accidental, who cares? He has the charm and self awareness of a teapot.

You, however, sound awesome. Well done for completing the Three Peaks - that's a fabulous achievement!

What did you say to your dad when he criticised you? A quick 'shut up, Dad, that's a horrible thing to say. Don't you dare make nasty personal comments' might make him think twice.

Good luck with your counselling. You might want to go LC/NC with your dad too.

Your incredible, your dad is a fucking tosser and if anyone said that to me, whoever they were, I wouldn’t be speaking to them until they apologised, recognised the achievement and mended their horrible ways.

Enjoy your pride in your achievement.

Work out what to do about your Dad in the therapy. He sounds completely out of order.

"Dad, I might be overweight now, but I will get back to being a healthy weight. You, in the otherhand will always be nasty". Job done, point made

It’s just sexism, you are only valuable if other men find you appealing (by their own measure of course, it’s weird when it comes from dads especially).

You could try “stop looking at my body, it’s fucking creepy dad”.

I like this response.

Has your dad got any wrinkles or hair loss? I'd be tempted to do the same back to him.