I need to break up with my partner.

[Yellowcoke]

I have another thread going here. I need to break up with him.

We are in a sexless relationship. It began from his side. At this stage even if he was to miraculously develop a sexless interest in me, I would be utterly repulsed at going anywhere near him again due to the awkwardness involved after so long.

Not only that I feel utterly smothered by this relationship. He has no hobbies or interests outside of his parents and outside of his work and me. All his life is one of those three aspects. It's too draining.

I need to break it off with him. I do not want to tell him that my main reason is the sexlessness.

What do I say or do I just ghost him?

I love my gay hairdresser more than my own partner.

I was looking for advice about what to say and how to do this but I think I will get drunk and do it.

We haven't slept together since last May and he's never tried to even want to come back and sleep with me. I have no idea what the hell he's doing and why he hasn't called it a day with me either.

Don't acknowledge anything I've written, that's totally fine, but please heed this - Do not get drunk in order to end it. Please don't. That is absolutely not the solution here. Getting drunk will turn anything you do into a fucking regretful disaster. Don't do it.

I currently have his number blocked because I can't face any more calls or texts from him. I will dip in and out from blocking his number only when I am free to take any calls or messages from him and until I have the courage to chat with him and call it all off.

Get some sleep and end it tomorrow morning. Have a very brief discussion and be done.

He doesn't like me drinking much and Buckfast turns me into a mess and sure that's half the battle right there. If I can get him to be utterly turned off from me - happy days 😁.

I think you will be doing your fiance a massive favour by ending your relationship, frankly. You sound unhinged.

Honestly, OP, just calm down and do it.

”Hey Steve, we need to talk. We’ve shared some great times together but I think we can both see that things aren’t right anymore. I want more for you and I definitely want more for me, so I think it’s time to bring our relationship to a close. I hope we can wish each other and move on.”

Brava. Yes. It's got my vote.

Don't be so ridiculous! She doesn't have to stay in the relationship but the years that she has done means that she absolutely owes him an explanation for ending it. She clearly has to end it but what is wrong with being kind in doing it?! Why does being considerate of his feelings mean that she is putting his feelings above her own?! Absolute nonsense! Of course she owes it to him to break it off decently and not leave the poor guy hanging?

No decent person ends a 6 year relationship by text, I don't care what you say. Get a grip yourself. There is no reason here why the OP shouldn't be decent.

I hate it when people get treated like shit. The OP should have had the decency to end this a long time ago. God this attitude is so depressing. All me me me.

Buckfast????!!!

I don't think it's the other poster who isn't "quite alright".

Nobody has said that an engagement can't be ended but surely to god after all those years it needs to be ended respectfully?!

Yes you can, but you would be a nasty piece of work if you did.

He doesn't like me drinking much

I wonder why not.

Buckfast turns me into a mess

Oh, well then…

You are a walking dichotomy and you protest too much about him, it's coming across as bravado. But when it comes to action, you need to be pissed to have the courage? It shows that hate is a deep emotion still, and there is a fine line between love and hate. When you are truly done, and really don't care, you will get to nonchalance, that will make it easier to say its over. Meantime, be honest with yourself, you hate him because he has caused you pain by his rejection. That is reasonable, it takes time to get to being numb and blasé about him, and you are not there yet, if you were, saying goodbye would not be difficult.

Please don’t ghost him at least send a text. My ex fiancée of four years ghosted me and it took me years to get over because I didn’t know what happened. This was before texting and mobile phones, but we would talk once a week (LDR) and send letters multiple times a week. I sent him a birthday card and it was returned to me, no explanation, nothing. Even a letter would’ve been better than nothing. Ghosting is cruel.

You clearly don't know what being a "nasty piece of work" really means. How dramatic.

Read the post prior to yours and see if you still feel the same.

You are the one who doesn't understand what a "nasty piece of work" is. I find your views on life somewhat disturbing.

Oh no, no one cares about the partner! I felt that you were being slightly unfair to the OP as it’s clear they do want to end it but is dragging their feet. There’s no harm spending some time on MN to talk about the rubbish relationship before she does end it but I get where you’re coming from

OP I think you know this isn’t the way to do things. Stay sober, have a chat and that’s it. Good luck to you

I read the post, what's your point? That was about being ghosted. I never advised the op to ghost her partner. As for "my views on life", how do you even know what they are from this one little thread? Again, so dramatic.