So.. I get married next year, and the conversation of stag do/hen do has started coming up. More so from my other halves parents. His dad in particular seems to take a liking to winding me up about the location of the stag do (expensive places - we just can't afford this type of expense whilst planning a wedding but whatever)
Next thing, his dads best friend starts mentioning strip clubs... lap dances, the lot. Now, I set a boundary very early on in our relationship that I really do not respect that sort of thing, and will not tolerate it at all due to past experiences with partners. My fiancé has always understood and agreed, he'd never ever want to step foot in a place like that. However, now it's different. Because his dad and his dads mate have mentioned it, he says he has 'no control' and it's his stag and I get no say in it whatsoever - although he's also stressed he really doesn't want to go but still will if that's what they want to do. I don't want to control his stag do (location, activities, who goes etc as I really don't care about that). What I do care about is strip clubs, and the fact he'd rather keep a bunch of old seedy men happy - rather than his future wife. He said 'what do you want me to do , sit outside whilst they all go in there?' well surely they should be doing what you want to do as it's your stag do?
We have argued extensively over this, I truly love him but this has been an ongoing issue for 6 months now. I have been told that if I make such a stance on this and make it an issue, that all future things in our life, he can tell me exactly what I can or cannot do because I'm setting this sort of precedent - because of my feelings of not wanting him to go to a strip club. His mum also said I'm being over dramatic about it - however I just would rather my future husband doesn't go to a strip club to see half naked woman and possibly get a lap dance, before marrying me... what is marriage about if that is acceptable?
I also have been told I'm not allowed to cause an issue again about them going to a strip club etc due to the fact his father is helping pay for a part of the wedding, I am to keep him happy (so let them go to a strip club and get a dance if they want to) - essentially I am to shut up and deal with it because "everyone does this".
Am I really the only person who doesn't agree with strip clubs and lap dances? Am I being unreasonable?