Should I be upset my husband did this?

flyingbeet · 2024-05-13T08:03:03+00:00

I am pregnant so I could be overdramatic but yesterday I made some food for my husband and gave it to him while he was playing playstation. He told me that it could do with a bit more salt. I don't mind critique. In fact I always ask for it. Problem was that he had his mic on while playing playstation and all his friends and his cousin could hear this conversation. My husband went to get some salt and I assume one of his friends on the other end said something along the lines of "is the food bad?". I could hear but I just heard my husband say "it's nice, it could just do with more salt. I just felt a little upset and I don't know if I'm making a big deal

HelpMeUnpickThis · 13/05/2024 09:04

I dont think this is a big deal. Congratulations on your pregnancy.

Dadjoke007 · 13/05/2024 09:11

Massive over-reaction, he did not criticise unfairly, nothing at all to think about

Starlight1979 · 13/05/2024 09:13

This can't be real??? I mean, I would question my own life choices having a baby with a man who sits playing on his playstation whilst you take him his meals but that's just me.

Other than that, he did nothing wrong. Massive overreaction.

WimseyofBalliol · 13/05/2024 09:14

Honestly, if your DH is regularly eating meals while gaming, isn’t that more of an issue?

CandiedPrincess · 13/05/2024 09:14

I think you are massively overthinking this. He didn't say anything bad, he just wanted some salt.

Mrsjayy · 13/05/2024 09:17

I don't think you are over reacting I can see how this would upset you, it was a flippant exchange but your husband didn't need to share it with his PlayStation buddies, next time he needs to take his mic off he isn't a teenager he can pause his mic/game.

JustRollWithIt · 13/05/2024 09:17

I guess he needs to get all the gaming in he can just now as soon things will change (I'm sure he will realise that when the time comes). Good luck with your new baby.

Branleuse · 13/05/2024 09:18

I think i understand op. I think that two blokes playing a game while you serve them and then there's a conversation about whether its good enough. I think its a bit degrading really. Not hugely, but enough that it would get my back up.
I think id not bring him food like that anymore. If i decided to prepare food then the least he could do was stop playing his games and actually join you, rather than make comments in front of his mate about its lack of seasoning

Thegoodbadandugly · 13/05/2024 09:20

Starlight1979 · 13/05/2024 09:13

This can't be real??? I mean, I would question my own life choices having a baby with a man who sits playing on his playstation whilst you take him his meals but that's just me.

Other than that, he did nothing wrong. Massive overreaction.

It's a wonder people can manage to breathe on their own these days lol

Sunnyandsilly · 13/05/2024 09:20

Branleuse · 13/05/2024 09:18

I think i understand op. I think that two blokes playing a game while you serve them and then there's a conversation about whether its good enough. I think its a bit degrading really. Not hugely, but enough that it would get my back up.
I think id not bring him food like that anymore. If i decided to prepare food then the least he could do was stop playing his games and actually join you, rather than make comments in front of his mate about its lack of seasoning

Bit extreme, he just said it needed salt.

SpringerFall · 13/05/2024 09:22

Starlight1979 · 13/05/2024 09:13

This can't be real??? I mean, I would question my own life choices having a baby with a man who sits playing on his playstation whilst you take him his meals but that's just me.

Other than that, he did nothing wrong. Massive overreaction.

Sums it up perfectly

Yougetmoreofwhatyoufocuson · 13/05/2024 09:27

Anything wrong with his own two legs that he can’t fetch his own seasoning?

He seems to think you are a malfunctioning household appliance.

Sunnyandsilly · 13/05/2024 09:28

Yougetmoreofwhatyoufocuson · 13/05/2024 09:27

Anything wrong with his own two legs that he can’t fetch his own seasoning?

He seems to think you are a malfunctioning household appliance.

Huh, she clearly writes he got his own seasoning.

gamerchick · 13/05/2024 09:31

He's an idiot for eating while he's playing. Those controllers are stroppy.

His words should have been thankyou and got his own salt and the only response from you in future is to "get your own tea'. Stop waiting on him.

Branleuse · 13/05/2024 09:33

gamerchick · 13/05/2024 09:31

He's an idiot for eating while he's playing. Those controllers are stroppy.

His words should have been thankyou and got his own salt and the only response from you in future is to "get your own tea'. Stop waiting on him.

Exactly. Its not crime of the century but this low level shit does get annoying.
I think those of us that have had gamers as partners at some point, get it

Zanatdy · 13/05/2024 09:36

WimseyofBalliol · 13/05/2024 09:14

Honestly, if your DH is regularly eating meals while gaming, isn’t that more of an issue?

Same, he sounds like a child

Newnamesameoldlurker · 13/05/2024 09:40

Branleuse · 13/05/2024 09:18

I think i understand op. I think that two blokes playing a game while you serve them and then there's a conversation about whether its good enough. I think its a bit degrading really. Not hugely, but enough that it would get my back up.
I think id not bring him food like that anymore. If i decided to prepare food then the least he could do was stop playing his games and actually join you, rather than make comments in front of his mate about its lack of seasoning

Yep, this. Degrading is the word. You're pregnant- he should be bringing you food if anything! I would change this dynamic quick before baby gets here.

CandiedPrincess · 13/05/2024 09:42

Honestly people, her DH isn't the issue here. People make so much drama over gaming. If he wants to eat his dinner while gaming, what's the crime? I've done it myself. Shoot me. It's no different to watching tv and eating your dinner which plenty of people do. The gaming is a total red herring here.

The OP is bothered that his friends heard him saying he needed salt and is embarrassed or something, when she needn't be because it's a completely normal thing to do. Hence, when you go to restaurants and cafes they often have salt and pepper sitting on the table...

CandiedPrincess · 13/05/2024 09:42

Yep, this. Degrading is the word. You're pregnant- he should be bringing you food if anything! I would change this dynamic quick before baby gets here.

Oh god giveover 😂

Solidlump · 13/05/2024 09:46

CandiedPrincess · 13/05/2024 09:42

Honestly people, her DH isn't the issue here. People make so much drama over gaming. If he wants to eat his dinner while gaming, what's the crime? I've done it myself. Shoot me. It's no different to watching tv and eating your dinner which plenty of people do. The gaming is a total red herring here.

The OP is bothered that his friends heard him saying he needed salt and is embarrassed or something, when she needn't be because it's a completely normal thing to do. Hence, when you go to restaurants and cafes they often have salt and pepper sitting on the table...

The big deal is him expecting his pregnant partner to wait on him and serve his meals to him.
He isn't her lord and master. If he wants to eat his meals whilst gaming, like a teenager, he should make his food himself.
Also very ignorant to draw into other people into what should have been a private conversation in their home.

Dadjoke007 · 13/05/2024 10:00

Solidlump · 13/05/2024 09:46

The big deal is him expecting his pregnant partner to wait on him and serve his meals to him.
He isn't her lord and master. If he wants to eat his meals whilst gaming, like a teenager, he should make his food himself.
Also very ignorant to draw into other people into what should have been a private conversation in their home.

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Wow, have you never said something when a mic was on and you forgot - or even that asking for salt is not a private and personal question?

Who said he is expecting his partner to wait on him and serve meals? Normally in a couple, one person cooks, the other doesn't at any moment in time. They may alternate days or in my case one person (me) does all the cooking. My ex-wife did all the laundry and bathrooms and general cleaning, I did all the food shopping, cooking, kitchen cleans and outdoors etc. Roughly a 50/50 split of labour. So you could argue that I always served meals to her, but then I never took a sponge to a toilet!! Doesn't mean that either of us were entitled or lazy.

Eating a meal when gaming is like watching TV, sometimes we would eat together or separately - I would think nothing of it if I took her a meal which she watched in the lounge while I was eating in kitchen with kids or eating a different time!!

Solidlump · 13/05/2024 10:08

Dadjoke007 · 13/05/2024 10:00

Wow, have you never said something when a mic was on and you forgot - or even that asking for salt is not a private and personal question?

Who said he is expecting his partner to wait on him and serve meals? Normally in a couple, one person cooks, the other doesn't at any moment in time. They may alternate days or in my case one person (me) does all the cooking. My ex-wife did all the laundry and bathrooms and general cleaning, I did all the food shopping, cooking, kitchen cleans and outdoors etc. Roughly a 50/50 split of labour. So you could argue that I always served meals to her, but then I never took a sponge to a toilet!! Doesn't mean that either of us were entitled or lazy.

Eating a meal when gaming is like watching TV, sometimes we would eat together or separately - I would think nothing of it if I took her a meal which she watched in the lounge while I was eating in kitchen with kids or eating a different time!!

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I would actually find it very unnerving if I was living in a home with my partner and I had to worry all the time that some unknown person in some unknown place was listening in to our conversations. A real Big Brother situation.
Your privacy might not bother you but I would find it really weird not having privacy in my home.

Inulatheyellow · 13/05/2024 10:12

I think it’s more disrespectful to be gaming while being served his food.

Does he make meals for you ?
I would have thought it would be nicer to be eating together as a couple.

The remark about needing salt is not an issue in itself.

Dadjoke007 · 13/05/2024 10:13

Solidlump · 13/05/2024 10:08

I would actually find it very unnerving if I was living in a home with my partner and I had to worry all the time that some unknown person in some unknown place was listening in to our conversations. A real Big Brother situation.
Your privacy might not bother you but I would find it really weird not having privacy in my home.

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Happens all the time - son plays Xbox and I will be talking to my daughter nearby. Doesn't worry me. And there have been millions of times when wife/daugher were on phone to someone and I have been having a conversation with them at the same time, pretty certain my wife never put the call on hold when I asked her something when on the phone!

Solidlump · 13/05/2024 10:17

Dadjoke007 · 13/05/2024 10:13

Happens all the time - son plays Xbox and I will be talking to my daughter nearby. Doesn't worry me. And there have been millions of times when wife/daugher were on phone to someone and I have been having a conversation with them at the same time, pretty certain my wife never put the call on hold when I asked her something when on the phone!

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If its normal behaviour in your home fair enough.
I wouldn't find it normal behaviour.