What do singletons do at the weekend?

[Limerent1]

For context, I’m single, 31 f, no kids, disposable income. I used to love to party when I was younger, from around the age 16. Getting dressed up to go out was the highlight of my week. Most of my friends seem to have grown out of it and have settled down, but I haven’t grown out of it at all.

if I don’t have plans for the weekend by say Thursday, I feel like I’m going to have a panic attack, it’s ridiculous I know. And god forbid I’m home alone on a Saturday night, I literally break down and think my whole life is boring and shit.

I do have some single friends at the moment who want to go out every couple of weeks or so, say to sit in a beer garden in the sun etc, but they will be off again soon when they’ve got boyfriends, and then I will find someone else to go out with.

I know it’s a pretty dull existence but what else do single females do at the weekend!? I don’t really have hobbies. I have a PT at the gym that’s it. And I do like a drink at the weekend if I’ve worked hard all week.

Im long term single and have pretty much given up hope of finding someone, so I’ve sort of accepted my fate that I will be single forever, I’m too stuck in my ways now. But I wish I would grow up and want to actually spend my weekends being productive instead of pissed!

There are probably millions of women (& men I guess) in your situation.
I know bumble have a friend finder section and I've seen anonymous posts on my local FB groups (the smaller not nutty groups) asking if anyone wants to hang out, these seem fairly low risk ways to broaden your social circle and meet kindred spirits?

Maybe explore a few hobbies? You don't have to commit to anything,you could just have a project where every Saturday during the day you try something a bit new, and then in the evening still meet people for a drink or whatever so you are combining what you currently like doing with the possibility of expanding your interests/activities and friend group in the future.
Lots of clubs have come and try sessions, or beginner events, or a no-commitment first class. You could try going sailing, doing an orienteering day, doing a wine tasting course, a pasta making course, an art class, a dance class, a book club, film group, amateur drama, choir, bell ringing... obviously there are hesps of others!

Rest and recharge. Do the cleaning, laundry and shopping that I don't have time for in the week. Go to the library, watch TV, do bigger home projects. Cook. Sleep.

I'm nearly 60 and I haven't grown out of wanting a Saturday night out. If you've moved on from clubbing, have you tried replacing that with pub bands? You get a wide range of music, people drink and dance, but it's not quite as full on as clubbing and finishes earlier so it doesn't wipe out your Sunday. I've found a local meet up group that sees a band a few times a month. I also go on my own sometimes, it tends to be a friendly crowd and I always get chatting to someone, dancing everyone's just enjoying themselves and not wondering why you are there.

Im 55 and not bored with socialising at all. Im not a big drinker anymore but still love music and dancing so I go to a lot of day time DJ events.

I was single at the age, and still went day drinking when it was warm like this! I used to hate not going out but luckily I made friends in the pub we drank in most so would go out on my own and sit with them! It's so hard when your friends settle down and you aren't ready

Sports - playing football/netball etc teams

Wild swimming

Playing in bands or singing in choirs

BBQ with friends

Weekends away to visit family

Weekends away
Gym
Dog walks
Home renovation
Reading
Cooking healthy meals for the week ahead
Going out for a coffee with friends (much more likely to be accepted than clubbing)
Shopping
Swimming
Relaxing
Laundry
Museums
Gigs

Possibilities endless.

Does sound to me though that you may be depressed op. Binge drinking every weekend is not a good lifestyle.

All the good stuff.
Sunday I’m usually at the club/ spa all day. Slow morning with coffee, brunch, papers/ book, then workout, bit of spa/ getting a treatment… Nourishment for brain and body.

Saturday probably meet friends for coffees/ food, go for a long hike/ walk, go on a city trip, museums/ events, maybe theatre/ opera/ concert at night.

Usually not enough weekend to fit stuff in.

Join some local groups of people/women that are socially active as a starting point if you’re not sure where to get started.

I'm following this thread with interest. I'm not single myself but my friend is. She has no hobbies or interests. She wants (expects?) Her every hour at the weekend to be filled with seeing friends. From Friday night to Sunday night she literally moves from friend to friend throughout the whole weekend. On a Saturday/ Sunday day she is known to arrange to meet up with 3 separate friends in the same day. She won't be at home alone ever. She won't go shopping or walking alone (in the day around our local area which is v safe).
She will individually message the group to see who is free/around/replies first. She will do something/anything just for the sake of company.

She is 49. It can feel like I have to baby sit her sometimes.

Does she have any decent topics of conversation?

relax, walking, hiking, camping, birdwatching, cycling, seeing friends, tv, films, reading, preparing for next weeks work, listening to music, housework, SLEEP!

I love it

Meetup groups are really good for this as you'll meet women in the same position as you. I also noticed a thing on insta called "Lonely girls" or something which I thought was really lovely and every activity looks great fun and very full every weekend (London based)

creative hobbies always good. films, cooking. cleaning, decluttering... bimbling about. coffee with friends. day trip to a local town or city for more bimbling about. nice walk up the local hills! Working on my business.

Park run. There's coffee afterwards - a good way to meet people.

Whatever I want 😄I've been married and hated it. I live in Glastonbury so there are loads of things going on every weekend. I have friends and personal hobbies. Go out and watch music, I make dollshouses and run a spiritual group.
I dint have enough time to do what I want as I work full time.

Weekends are usually my catch up stuff so very boring!
Spin classes, weights, food shop, batch cook, cleaning, errands, laundry etc
Sunday morning I go river swimming
Thursday evenings I play netball

And god forbid I’m home alone on a Saturday night, I literally break down and think my whole life is boring and shit.

I find this quite pathetic. Stick the telly on and pour yourself a glass of wine like a normal person.

Last weekend I went to the gym both days, a music concert on Saturday evening, and a party on Sunday evening. On Sunday I also had a beauty salon appointment. Next weekend, gym both days, a guided walk and later a play at a local theatre on Saturday, then a TV show recording on Sunday. I may eat out on Sunday evening, or I may just order in a takeaway if there’s anything worth watching on TV. But I am fortunate to live in London, where there is no shortage of things to do, and no stigma attached to doing them on your own.

I have luxurious lay ins, decide to eat breakfast sometime around 11. Take the dogs out for a walk.
Or I'll pop out early for a cycle ride.
I might have an afternoon nap, or if it's a sunny day sit in the park with the dogs and read a book.
Occasionally I'll pop to the pub with a friend or go shopping.

Really, I do whatever the hell I want. I am accountable only to myself and its bliss.

I should imagine, the same stuff as couples..... volunteering, sports, meeting friends, reading, crafts, watching TV, theatre, cinema, sitting in coffee shops, DIY, maybe even household chores..... in other words, whatever they want to do.
I'm in a couple, but we nearly always do our (separate) own thing on a Sunday, because we're not joined at the hip!

Why does that make you a normal person to stick the tv on and have a glass of wine on a Saturday night?

When I was single at that age I was out every weekend no matter what. I wasn't interested in any of the suggestions on here. I have no hobbies even now

There are loads of great suggestions on here!

I found as I got older my hobbies/tastes shifted so I wasn’t bothered about going out in the evening, as I was getting up early for something exciting the next day.

So it’s a reframe - rather than placing the focus on “Saturday night” as the big event, shift the big event to an early morning barre class, sunrise walk + breakfast, early walk at the beach, treat yourself to brunch + the papers, get up and get a train to a new city, be the first in at a gallery/national trust place.

Then it takes the intensity out of the Saturday night.

Other ideas: theatre/local comedy night/take yourself to Paris/Barcelona for the weekend/try a “sober rave” or ecstatic dance night/learn bachata/samba etc

Tell us how you get on!

Clean
work
netflix

Daytrips or minibreaks, food markets, walking, classes, charity shop trails in the nearby posh towns, I try and get to a meetup group in the nearest big city if I want to be social on Fri/Sat night