What do singletons do at the weekend?

[Limerent1]

For context, I’m single, 31 f, no kids, disposable income. I used to love to party when I was younger, from around the age 16. Getting dressed up to go out was the highlight of my week. Most of my friends seem to have grown out of it and have settled down, but I haven’t grown out of it at all.

if I don’t have plans for the weekend by say Thursday, I feel like I’m going to have a panic attack, it’s ridiculous I know. And god forbid I’m home alone on a Saturday night, I literally break down and think my whole life is boring and shit.

I do have some single friends at the moment who want to go out every couple of weeks or so, say to sit in a beer garden in the sun etc, but they will be off again soon when they’ve got boyfriends, and then I will find someone else to go out with.

I know it’s a pretty dull existence but what else do single females do at the weekend!? I don’t really have hobbies. I have a PT at the gym that’s it. And I do like a drink at the weekend if I’ve worked hard all week.

Im long term single and have pretty much given up hope of finding someone, so I’ve sort of accepted my fate that I will be single forever, I’m too stuck in my ways now. But I wish I would grow up and want to actually spend my weekends being productive instead of pissed!

Whatever I feel like. Some weekends I have plans every day / night, sometimes I have zero plans.

Are we still using the word "singletons"? Very 90's 😅

There are a couple of facebook groups where I live, one is a sort of low key dating but it's more about friends - so they arrange trips to theatre, music venues etc.

Another is for Childfree women (married or single) and they arrange meet ups.

What I did was I had a couple of hobby groups...walking and tennis - where we'd meet up at the weekend sometimes too.

But it is quite hard if your friends are coupled up.

I am also 31 and long term single!

I see my parents a lot, usually on Sunday
See my friends, one is also long term single so it works well. The other is married so depends on her plans with hubs
Go for coffee
Go to the gym
Go for a walk
Go to M&S for something nice to eat
Swipe on Hinge 🤣
Watch Netflix
Find something to do in the house/garden

Join a meet up group youll find many singletons on there them you can make single friendships yo go out with

Not currently single but I was at your age and for a good few years (well shorter relationships of under a year in between but lived alone and when I think back on 29-35 I think if them as my single years!)

I did have single friends, or at least friends who had partners but still wanted to do stuff separately fairly regularly, so we did meals and drinks out, weekends or longer trips away etc. (Still do although mostly have partners now, and I have a child). Also close to my family so would hang out with them a bit, get my sister to cook me a roast whilst I played with my nieces and nephews. Go stay with other sister and her grown up daughters and have nice day trips or drinks etc with them. I understand it's harder if you don't have those things.

I tried meetup groups in the UK, there was one called Social Circle or something like that, and another for theatre trips - they were fine, I didn't really stick with them though, as I did have friends/ family to spend time with mostly - but I enjoyed the sessions and certainly think they might be worth a go if you could find one based either on a current interest or something you'd like to pursue. For a year of the time I lived and worked abroad and whilst there I did lots more meetup groups as well as an evening class, and they were great - I made some friends I've kept in touch with even after returning home.

Gym classes. Walked my dog. Read - lots and lots of reading, I do miss having the time for that now. Binge watched TV series. Was happy to go to cinema or theatre on my own if I couldn't arrange to go with a friend for any reason. I had a job at the time where there was always some work to do at the weekend, and I did a Masters too so reading/ research/ writing for that.

I'm generally pretty happy in my own company and I certainly miss it now, but I did also get lonely sometimes I think it's inevitable. Mind you, I do sometimes too now and I'm never bloody alone much as I'd like to be sometimes - it's just a different type of missing having as much time for all the above stuff.

You sound afraid of being alone. I love being alone. Sometimes l drink my morning coffee and listen to the birds sing and its bliss.

Do you live in the North or South? 🙏for North and we can meet and get pissed together 😆

I always manage to fill my time whether it be pissing about in the garden... walking the dog... beer garden. Although, I admit I am definitely a lone ranger... when I haven't got plans, I PANIC!

3 more sleeps 'til the weekend 🍾🍸
(34F who hasnt grown up yet)

You won't lose your friends for forever. I've found that at worst people only disappear for 2 years after giving birth, then they are back to the social scene again, albeit in a more family friendly manner (so instead of a drink in a pub, they may prefer a drink in a picnic).

I sometimes go to the pub or theatre alone - it's increasingly common; everything is getting more expensive so people prefer home gatherings now. But many are on the same boat, so I don't find it weird at all.

Extra long gym sessions, bike rides, walks, gardening, watching sport, taking my Mum to the garden centre/Lakeland/Farm shop/anywhere she wants a lift to, reading in the sun, stopping by Waitrose to get my free paper then reading it leisurely over the weekend, housework, meeting friends for a drink on a Sunday afternoon (Sunday afternoon pub visit are the best).

Saturday evenings I might buy some beer or have a gin whilst watching a bit of Saturday evening rubbish TV.

I spent my 20s and 30s in clubs, never being in at weekends, out Friday night not back until Sunday. I had the best time but I quite like my quieter weekends these days.

I do think it comes down to having friends who are also single to keep you entertained all weekend long. Depending on where you live, there's usually girl meet up groups which arrange a few things. You could attend one of these?
If I was single and not reliant on friends, I'd find it hard for a full weekend too. After the gym on a Saturday morning, I'm back to mum/family duties. I'm not sure what I'd do if I had all that time now!
I used to casually date a lot and sometimes long distance so I got a weekend away to somewhere new.

Go hillwalking alone.
Go gravel biking alone.
Go outdoor swimming alone.
Go paddleboarding alone.
Going to do bikepacking alone once I get panniers.
Don't go for coffee because weekends in coffee shops are for families.
Don't go swimming in a pool because it's for families.
Can't go to climbing gym as it's for families.
Can't play tennis - families.
No restaurants here are taking bookings for lone diners since covid so going for a meal is out of the question.
I have a nice time but then I have to eat a sandwich which brings me right back to earth with a bump.

I do the things I enjoy but my life will always be less than.

Meet up groups where you all are must be better than here.

Whatever I goddamn like!

Love it

I have a daughter, but share care with her Dad, so alternat weekends. When I'm without her, I please myself. See family friends, go camping and walking, adventuring with the dogs. My child free weekends are very rarely empty of plans well in advance.

'Singletons' is very Bridget Jones 🤣.
Currently single but ready to meet someone, and child free by choice.
Weekends vary. There is a yoga class I like in the mornings. Sometimes I go away for a night and visit my family. Sometimes friends and I go for dinner/a show/spa day. Sometimes I hang out on my own and read my book/watch something. Sometimes I get a pedicure. Occasional date. Cinema if something good is out. Maybe a swim. I live in a city though, there is always something on. I think it would be tough living somewhere more isolated.

I'm single and I'm the opposite! I can spend the whole weekend home alone quite happily. When I was younger (and also single) I did go out more, lots of clubbing with "friends" who weren't really friends, just people who liked doing the same. Looking back it was a sad phase of my life where I needed to distract myself from the problems in my life. I still have problems in my life now, but prefer the occasional company of true friends, and don't mind my own company a lot of the time.

I don't think either way of being is "right", but perhaps it's worth thinking about why you don't like being alone. If there are insecurities there, working on those might make you happier.

Binge telly.
Eat what I want. Go out when I want.
Video games some times.
Long baths with music and candles and bubbles.
Walks with the dog

Spend time with my kid.
Have pizza... And chips.. and cake.
Wander about my house in my knickers, letting it jiggle about and get a good airing.
Play with the dog.
Go shopping, have coffee, buy nothing, buy something, treat myself or my kid.
Have ice cream.
Go to the library and sit and read half a book before I decide I don't like it.
Asda cafe? Brunch? Ok.
Swimming alone or with the kid, if I cannon ball, the pool empties by half.
Sit and paint my talons nails
Use a Dremel on my little toenail.
Shave.. for me cause I like it.
Bleach floors.. and top lip
Pimple popping festivals
Potter in the garden
Shuffle about the garden centre in a dry robe
Wear crocs.
Dance whilst naked to music from 30 years ago
Fall to my knees and thank the good lord above that I'm not someone that has to be with someone just because they fear being alone.
Watch Bluey... Alone.. and love it..