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Apology note (Met a girl with Bipolar thread)

51 replies

Jules981120 · 12/05/2024 17:28

If you saw my last thread, this is the note I want to drop em off at her house with her jacket/sweater. Letting me know your honest thoughts would be nice:

Dear A*a,

I'm sorry for dropping off your stuff unannounced; it felt wrong to throw away your jacket. I apologize for any hurt I caused with my words or actions, especially if it made you feel compared or tested. Before our argument, I was referring to my brother, whom I drove around a lot during school.

I genuinely like you and would like to explore what could continue between us, if anything. It took me three days after my surgery to see your point of view, and I'm sorry it took me that long. I had time to think while the anesthesia wore off.

I regret making you cry and giving the impression that I didn't want to get to know you for you. It was a mistake, my fuck up, and I'm truly sorry for how I came across.

I asked you to block me because I have strong feelings for you and would rather not know you're out there if I can't have you. I hope that makes sense, but if it doesn't, I understand.

During our argument, I asked if it was your bipolar disorder that caused your reaction, not to dismiss how you felt, but to try to understand. I realize now that the timing and context were terrible, and I'm sorry for adding to the confusion and hurt you were already feeling.

I hope those three weeks were as special to you as they were to me.

If there's any chance we can talk in person again, please feel free to reach out, you have my info. I may not have understood your decision, at the time but I can at least respect it.

You made those three weeks into something special for me. Regardless of your choice, I respect it. You deserve a lot, and I would like to be the person to give and show you that, but I understand if you don't want to see me again, even though that's not what I intended.

I miss you.

  • J***
OP posts:
Hillcrest2022 · 12/05/2024 18:00

(also the bit about rather not know you’re out there if I cannot have you is fucking TERRIFYING.) @nightmaries right?????!!!!

To me that reads this person wants me dead if they can't have me.

IDontLoveTheWayYouLie · 12/05/2024 18:03

Didn't see the other thread but just drop the jacket off and leave it at that.

GreyCarpet · 12/05/2024 18:03

Hillcrest2022 · 12/05/2024 18:00

(also the bit about rather not know you’re out there if I cannot have you is fucking TERRIFYING.) @nightmaries right?????!!!!

To me that reads this person wants me dead if they can't have me.

That's how I'd read it too.

Whilst I wouldn't take it as an actual threat to life, I would be concerned about their patterns of thought and behaviour.

I'm.also aware these threads might not be genuine but on the off chance they are...

TwilightSkies · 12/05/2024 18:09

Leave her alone you psycho!!
Listen to what everyone is telling you.
And go get some therapy and leave all women alone.

Kelly51 · 12/05/2024 18:21

I asked you to block me because I have strong feelings for you and would rather not know you're out there if I can't have you
sent from iphone

get a grip you spooky bastard

PoppyCherryDog · 12/05/2024 20:34

Omg please don’t send it’s so full on and creepy for 3 weeks!

Todaywasbetter · 12/05/2024 20:44

It’s too long and too emotional. Strip it back to a couple of lines and calm down.

Jules981120 · 12/05/2024 21:11

Yeah I will, sorry

OP posts:
Lookintomywhisperingeyeandsmellthearoma · 12/05/2024 21:45

You have attachment issues

ThirtyThrillionThreeTrees · 12/05/2024 23:36

I would report you to the police of you sent me that. It's far too intense and appears both threatening and stalkerist.

I think you may need to get some professional help with managing your emotions.

Brightandbubly · 12/05/2024 23:39

You sound a very dangerous individual

BananaLambo · 12/05/2024 23:41

Good lord no. You’ve been on 3 dates. She doesn’t want to see you anymore. Leave her alone. I can’t stress this enough. Leave her alone. You’re over. It’s done. Move on and get some therapy.

Lavender14 · 13/05/2024 00:39

Op... if you absolutely must leave her a note with the jacket write

"Here is your jacket, I'm sorry any hurt I've caused. Wishing you well in the future" Jules.

Then leave her alone. You are coming across way way too intense and truthfully if I received what you were originally planning on sending I would feel intimidated by you. You said on your other thread that she's been stalked by an ex in the past so she'll be on high alert for similar behaviours. If you care for her at all you'll keep it very brief and respect her wishes and move on.

fettybord · 13/05/2024 01:17

Lavender14 · 13/05/2024 00:39

Op... if you absolutely must leave her a note with the jacket write

"Here is your jacket, I'm sorry any hurt I've caused. Wishing you well in the future" Jules.

Then leave her alone. You are coming across way way too intense and truthfully if I received what you were originally planning on sending I would feel intimidated by you. You said on your other thread that she's been stalked by an ex in the past so she'll be on high alert for similar behaviours. If you care for her at all you'll keep it very brief and respect her wishes and move on.

This

Redglitter · 13/05/2024 01:20

Not sure why you felt the need but NO just NO

Leave the poor girl alone. Your behaviour is awful

yhk · 13/05/2024 01:24

Just let it go, man.

PBandJ111 · 13/05/2024 06:06

Are you 15?

BMW6 · 13/05/2024 06:54

You need to leave her alone and get some therapy because you're very strange OP.

EthnoBotanist · 13/05/2024 07:10

OP, why are you posting on here?

You have had so, so much advice about this. But you are ignoring it. Why?

Just to repeat what everybody else is saying:

  1. Your feelings are far too intense for such a short relationship. Please, please reflect on this and try to have some insight. Your feelings are obsessive. You have obviously had some poor examples of romantic relationships in the past and/or you have some mental health issues. YOU need to face this and deal with it.
  2. The way you are behaving will disturb the woman you claim to care about. She is not a love object, she is a real human being. Back off her and give her space.
  3. Real relationships (as opposed to songs and films) do not proceed this way. This has no hope of being a real relationship. It is a psycho drama.
AgentProvocateur · 13/05/2024 08:05

Have you see Baby Reindeer?

Priority1234 · 13/05/2024 08:40

@Spottedshell THIS 😂

Uricon2 · 13/05/2024 08:46

So much angst and drama for 3 dates. OP, no good will come from sending that. Stop fixating on her and try to think about why you are behaving like this, because it's not normal and not right.

DaisyMerollin · 13/05/2024 10:06

Anyone got a link to the other thread?

And OP, no offence, you sound like a stalker.

loropianalover · 13/05/2024 11:10

This is so scary and weird… 3 weeks!