He's a bad Whatsapper

[JamSandle]

Sort of seeing someone new. Very early days. When I say seeing, we have met a couple of times.

Hes a very lazy Whatsapper. By that I mean if you send a message, even one that involves meeting up and confirming details, he takes a while to reply, sometimes days.

It all just feels a bit boring/low effort.

When you're into someone, you enjoy messaging (in my experience anyway).

He said he wants to go on another date but his lack of messaging is putting me off to be honest and I'm thinking of just saying forget about it.

I know some on here say messaging doesn't mean much, it's how they are in person.

But it just feels so low effort I can't really be bothered myself anymore.🤣

It is polite to get back to someone re plans. Op I would find him time wasting thats just me.

Absolutely. Whatever your communication channel of choice, there’s zero excuse to not reply to confirm plans.

Oh thats lovely of you - thank you.

Really I'm just looking for him to be reciprocal and match energy and that isn't happening.

I am going on holiday today anyway so will go and have a lovely time and write this one off.

Nothing ventured, nothing gained!

Forgot something else I didn't like and not sure how I forgot 🤣He vapes...a lot.

I would agree with other posters if his messaging habits (or lack of) were the same in the beginning and he was being consistent in slow replies and just bad at messaging (even though it takes 10 seconds to send a message and I personally couldn’t be arsed with someone who took days to reply). But you have stated he made the effort in the beginning and now he can’t be arsed. He has shown you that he is actually able to message, that he can be consistent, as he was in the beginning just that he can no longer be bothered to make the effort. I would bin him op.

I’m not a big watsapper. I really struggle with people messaging all the time. Time in person IS better than building a fake intimacy over text messages. My heart actually drops when they start messaging me first thing in the morning - because I don’t really know this person.

BUT it’s rude to not message back even on the same day.

In the past I’ve had to say ‘I’ll message you mid week to confirm date and have a catch up with you then’ so they know I need a bit of space but I’m still there.

but going off your update I’d cut him loose

I love messaging if it's a love interest, anyone else I see as "need to reply to that and tick that off my list"
I met someone so great once though that hated technology but in person he was so attentive, texts were very short and sporadic.
But I like messaging and looking forward to seeing the notification etc, getting to know each other even more.

To be honest though OP the other stuff would put me off, talking over you, small minded and bragging.

'@SamW98

What on earth has communicating via WhatsApp got to do with ‘posting trite on social media?’

It is the same principle.

People who think every little thing they do has to be shared/communicated and who spend too much time staring at their phone rather than actually living life.

Also expecting that everyone else does the same and that instant replies and comments are to be expected.

I'm about to board my flight and he's just messaged. Took him some days but he has confirmed a date.

I was about to say not to bother chasing him up, but then saw your update.

I'm a big communicator, so would feel the same way as you, and it's not great when your love interest is not on the same page.

Personally I'd mention communication styles casually on your next date so you can work out if this is just how he is, and make your decision to carry on from there.

Nope. Most people communicate via WhatsApp these days. Its zero reflection on their SM habits.

My circle all chat over WhatsApp and half of them don’t even have FB etc. it’s a communication channel - a way of chatting to your mates. It really isn’t complicated - it’s how people chat these days.

Its much easier to organise a bunch of people in a group chat than phoning each and every one individually.