So i will paint the picture first
Im a 32 year old dad of 2 girls ( should say angels as they are just perfect) 3yo and 2yo
my wife and I have been together for 9 years married for 6
relationship has been strained recently mostly because of finances and general parenting life but we love each other to our cores! This I am 100% sure about!
Another couple in this story Sarah and John
John has started a new job and is away from home a lot
Sarah wants kids soon but johns new job isn’t making it easy and has often commented on how lovely our family is
Sarah and I when we were teenagers ALMOST went out but didn’t and ended up barely now speaking as life drifted us apart
My wife and I and John and Sarah see each other every week in passing as we are all members of the same organisations and relationship between us all has been a BBQ few times a year and a few nights out together s part of a larger group
So!
I was waiting to get onto a plane at an airport gate and Sarah sees me and waves (not planned we just crossed paths randomly)
We were both traveling for our work but totally unrelated (I swear by this please rest assured none of this interaction was planned)
We got talking and had a bit of a heart to heart
Sarah seems to think John is having an affair of some kind (as she has found some make up on clothes etc but coudl be linked to his work also?) but hasn’t confronted him on this
We got talking at the gate and ended up talking all the way to the plane only to find that we were sitting beside eachother! (again this was not planned!!!!)
The flight was about 1 hour and we talked as the conversation got deeper and deeper (how I found about johns new job and potential affair) I saw her getting upset and we had a coffee and chatted more and more
It was a red eye flight so we were both very tired and Sarah's head started to drop onto my shoulder as I thought she was going to sleep
After the conversation and knowing she hadn’t been getting much sleep I decided to let her rest
The more she rested and the more I thought about how life could have been different (Different NOT better!!!) I rested my head on hers in more of a support/ feeling sorry kind of way
Sarah had her phone sitting on the tray table propped up for a video she never watched I looked at it and saw her eyes were open (I thought she was asleep) she didn’t see me looking but I don’t know if she saw me at all
My hand was open between ours and she pretended to shuffle in her sleep and held my hand while her head rested on my shoulder again I felt so sorry for her and i didnt know what to do so i shuffled and sat forward to "wake her up" and we chatted and laughed some more
As the plane landed and we got off and chatted through the airport we found out we were heading in the same direction and she suggested we shared an UBER we got a large van as she had quite a large bag and so did I
We sat opposite eachother and talked again and I tried to put the plane thing behind me and just chat away to a woman who I thought needed an ear
We kept meeting eyes and the stares got longer and longer until she asked me what hotel was I staying at again and I froze and said I honestly cant remember?!
the uber stopped and i got out and actually walked into my hotel like an idiot
I would be lying if I didn't say she was beautiful but again i am happily married!
but my mind does tend to wonder and don't know how to process this!
I told my wife about all of this of course and she joked about it saying “yea she’s fancied you for ages apparently” but my wife being her supporting loving person just joked about it and thought it was just a funny thing
Long story short I have no idea what to take out of this early morning interaction my emotions are everywhere, Am I reading too much into a small interaction?, Am I overreacting? Am I underreacting? is my wife acting strange not thinking more about this? am i a horrible person for even entertaining the thought of Sarah? do i talk to Sarah about all of this? do i talk to John? their relationship is already in a bad place!!
I love my wife and kids!
Please Help!