Please ignore the regressive, misogynistic claptrap posted by Princess12365837.
His behaviour really is controlling.
His “gifts” to you aren’t actually centred on bringing you pleasure or making you happy, are they?
All about him and what he wants. Like he sees you as a living sex toy, rather than as a human being with needs (of all kinds, not just sexual: eg the need for boundaries, the need to be in charge of deciding what underwear you wear!) and desires of your own.
And if that wasn’t bad enough, your last post throws up yet another red flag.
If he “likes the feel” of women’s swimming costumes so much, he’s probably imagining himself in all the lingerie he’s buying for you.
Google AGP - autogynephilia. I can’t help wondering if he’s started watching a particular type of porn in the last year.
Men who like cross dressing tend to escalate with the slightest bit of acceptance or encouragement - or indeed without it.
These are serious issues in your marriage, and I think you need to pay attention to them and think about whether this is really how you want to live. Coercive control, sexually coercive, gaslighting, a lingerie fetish that probably isn’t restricted to you being the one in the lingerie… this is not good.