Worst date venues and have you ever walked out of them?

[sajamor0811]

Sometimes we need to look on the lighter side and console each other a bit. So I'd like to start a discussion from a date I had on Sunday that lasted all of about an hour.

It had been arranged as a coffee date at a Starbucks open till 10pm. So I thought we'd be staying there for longer than one drink and was a bit surprised when the guy I met suggested going for a walk.

I asked where to partly from a safety viewpoint and partly because I thought he'd have a particular venue or event in mind. There's quite a lot going on in Nottingham and even more so over Bank Holiday.

He said "I was thinking perhaps a pub" and took me to one that was absolutely rammed. The conversation so far had hardly flowed from his side and a noisy pub was hardly conducive to it. The only table was a shared one which you just don't want on a date and I said so.

The next pub had four or five big screens showing football which fair dos, I'm a big fan of. However, the noise could have raised the roof and made conversation which a first date is meant to be about impossible.

I pointed out it was very loud and the guy said incredulously, "You don't like it?" I was at this point tipped over the edge by his general thoughtlessness and cluelessness. So I said I thought the whole point was to talk and went outside.

He didn't come out after me so I started heading towards the railway station. I stopped a couple of times to see if he was looking for me but couldn't see him. The upside was at least I got the last pistachio mousse cake slice from Caffè Nero!

yes that would have really annoyed me too. The fact he didn’t even come out to at least say bye is especially awful. Did he text you later? I assume not! In a way it’s good when men show themselves up from the jump though, gives you the chance to get rid of them quick instead of wasting more time.

My worst date was in a crackhouse in America 😂 this guy who was several years older than me took me to his parents house. I didn’t realise it was his family house since he was about 30. But his Dad rushed in grumbling telling him the rule is no guests. Bit awkward.

We then went to his friends house which was filled with smoke and had no furniture that had a couple who were clearly high on something that wasn’t as innocuous as weed! I somehow made my escape and never spoke to him again

My worst venue was a fish and chip 😂

I had one guy who suggested as a first date we could find a pub and watch the West Ham v Chelsea another and got quite offended when I asked if he was joking

My mate (late 50’s) met a man online and they went for food in a nice pub. When the menus came over, he said to her ‘it’s a bit more than I was expecting to pay can we go somewhere cheaper ?’

She suggested a little cafe along the road. As they were walking there, they walked past a bakers and he said ‘shall we get a pie and sit on that bench’ - at that point she said let’s end it here

He hasn't messaged or rung since and I've got rid of his number. At least people in the pub wouldn't have been consuming anything illegal - unless they were downloading naughty stuff on their phones!

Another mate met a bloke who suggested getting a bag of chips and sitting in his car eating them - as a first date!

I bet it was the last as well!

I'm so sorry this didn't work out for you - you definitely dodged one! Next!

I often work in a local, very popular cafe, and have witnessed some unbelievably excruciating first dates right next to me. I try not to listen but sometimes it's hard!

But just yesterday I met a friend for coffee, but stayed on after she'd left to catch up on stuff. I witnessed (for the first time ever I think) a first date unfolding into something lovely.

They were at two tables down from me. Both mid to late 30s. She was Spanish I think and he was British. After about two hours it was literally like they were in love. It was obviously a first date but it was so lovely to witness them connecting!

I didn't make it obvious that I'd noticed them, but it was so nice to see something really positive unfolding between two people in sort of real time.

KFC...I'm a vegetarian

Oh wow, I've only ever had one truly awful date and sadly it was my fault, I was in my early 20s and learnt my lesson! I arranged going to a comedy gig as a first date, and as you'd expect there wasn't a great deal of time to talk. I ended up talking to some random who asked to sit near us more than her, that may have been a mixture of venue and me being a shit date.

These days, number one priority for first dates is a suitable setting to talk! Also good to know a decent variety of places to match tastes/preferences. That guy mentioned above not being aware of menu prices in advance, astonishing 😂I learnt that lesson a little bit later, be comfortable with everything especially if you're going to offer to pay the whole bill 🙃

Perhaps there should be classes on making a good impression at school?

Had been on a few dates with this guy who was paranoid about social distancing etc after lockdown had ended. He asked to meet after work, fine although it meant that I couldn’t stay late and get more work done. He met me at the entrance, we walked together (15 mins) to a nearby train station which had various pubs, cafes and restaurants in the vicinity. Then he started checking train departure times on the board, fully intending to head home. I was incredulous that I’d left work early just so we could walk to the train station. I should have called it quits then but I suggested we sit on a bench nearby and we had a nice enough chat. I ended it over the phone soon after that.

A cafe. I arrived first and he was late so I had a pot of tea (single pot, small, mini) and when he arrived he got himself a cup and drank my tea. He was wearing a rainbow wizards robe.

Agreed to meet bloke in a cafe. I arrived before him, and as it was a really hot day, went in and got myself a Coke. Then he rang me to say it looked really rough, and there were lots of builders outside. (There were, they were clearly on a break, and the cafe was expecting them, as they had loads of cups out ready.)

It was a bit of a greasy spoon, but it was clean, and there were tables to talk. But no, he insisted I walk to the end of the street to meet him and decide where to go. Despite being boiling hot, he was wearing an anorak and insisted we walk round the block to find somewhere better, only in that direction, there were just residential houses, so we had to keep walking with temperatures in the 3ps. We eventually ended up in a pub which was not great either, but was quiet and out of the sun and served chilled liquids, which was mostly all I wanted in the heat.

Really, the cafe and pub would both have been okay, and the problem was him. He mostly talked about his dead girlfriend and all the terrible dates he'd been on, with seemingly no insight on the common factor. (I hope he ended up taking more time to grieve, because i think that's what he really needed.) I assume I was added into the bad dates count.

The guy that asked me on a date to the cinema, then hung back so I was in front and had to pay for us both, then he got out the Vicks nasal thing, plugged it deep into his nostril and inhaled deeply.

The guy who sat cross-legged then leaned over to let out an unbelievably loud fart, before saying, "Best to get that out of the way".

The guy who pinned me to the wall in his hall seconds after I arrived, before launching in with the kisses and hands.

The guy who wanted us to do pharmacy HIV tests in case we slept together that evening.

Pizza Hut..

To be clear I have no problem with PH generally but he'd told me he was taking me out for a really nice meal, his treat. I was not expecting the pizza hut buffet option!

The guy who arrived 20 minutes a 2pm coffee date in a suit and tie complete with matching pocket handkerchief and blue mirror sunglasses that looked like they cost 5 euros from the looky looky man on Benidorm beach., proceeded to sit down and his first words were to comment about having one small spritzer and driving. After we sat in silence after that for what seemed like days I asked if he wanted anything to drink and he replied ‘finally I was wondering when you would ask’

Literally the only reason I didn’t tell him to fuck off there and then was it’s nice bar I go in regularly and I felt embarrassed if I caused a scene. So we sat there while he droned on and on about himself. He then said he was ordering a coffee so I had one too - god knows why but that sense of embarrassment again.
Then when we were ready to leave the young barman came over with the card machine and my ‘date’ sat on his hands staring at the ceiling waiting for me to pay. Which I did because believe me it was a small price to pay for getting the fuck out of there.

Then when we hit outside dr he said ‘shall we go for a curry?’ After I picked my jaw off the floor at his front I said I was going home and he said ‘oh I presumed we’d make a night of it’

Then a couple of hours later he messaged asking if we could do it again as he’d had a great time and asked ‘am I what you’re looking for babe’

I just replied no and deleted 😀

It was only just after lockdown so to be a bit fair not much was open.

But after the chips he said should they go somewhere quiet for a bit of fun in the car

Bear in mind they’re both in their 50’s - she refused and went home. Later that evening he sent a text saying it wasn’t going to go anywhere because she’s quite obviously frigid 🤣🤣

I loathe low effort dates like ‘going for a walk’, or where you show up and they haven’t got a pub/cafe in mind and you walk around aimlessly or they rely on your for a suggestion.

My shortest date, however, was a date that never even got started. I was running 5 minutes late and he texted me to say “I’ve moved on from <meeting place> because I got bored waiting for you, I’m at <new meeting place>”. I instantly turned back and blocked & deleted him. A shitty attitude before we’ve even met? No thanks.

Please keep these coming they are so funny! I haven't had any horrific ones, although my very first online date was quite cringe. He turned out to be shorter than I was wearing a waistcoat looking like he was off for a game of snooker. Then told me he loved having it off with the lights on and that women shouldn't be embarrassed because it's normal to stink during sex.

It lasted one hour (the date - not the sex).

It wasn't so much, the venue, but the company so to speak. A guy I had been seeing invited me to join his brother (who I also knew) and bro's partner for a wine tasting event. Then 10 minutes into the wine tasting, another woman shows up who is clearly also on a date with him. So it was like his brother/partner, my date/me, and this other woman who he clearly also invited on the date. 🙄

To this day, I truly have no idea if he did it on purpose and thought he could get away with it, or he just plum forgot that he invited us both to the same thing. Who knows! Half way through the tasting, as his other date was in mid story about their first date and how charming he was (I think she just thought I was a random third wheel!), the brother asked if I'd be coming to dinner with them after, and several glasses of wine into the evening, I announced to everyone that, yes, of course, I'd love to join them for dinner.

So then we went to dinner and I couldn't even eat any food I was so furious, just sat there and slowly worked my way through a few more glasses of wine, while guy I had been dating was clearly very uncomfortable before I thanked everyone for a lovely evening and made my apologies that I had to go meet up with friends.

Guy even had the audacity to message later after they'd clearly all finished dinner to ask if he could pop over to 'stay the night'. 😂

My worst date was meeting in a pub, he was late, he smelt of cigarettes (despite claiming to be a non-smoker) and BO, asked me to get him a beer, tried to snog me, then went outside for a smoke.

I drained my drink and left by the back door.

I had a whole date in a car! I had arranged to meet a guy at a lovely pub. Just as I was leaving, he texted to say he wouldn’t be going into the pub as he had broken his leg and he wouldn’t be able to carry the drinks. I said, no worries I can carry the drinks.

When I got there he refused to get out of the car and asked me to sit in the passenger seat. We had a chat. Then he said although he couldn’t walk, he could drive as he had an automatic and he could still have sex as long as I went on top 😐

When I got home he texted to see if I wanted to meet up again. I replied, Let me know when you can walk. He replied, Lol, and I never heard from him again!

I’m also a stickler for guys paying on the first date. I’m sure someone will be along to tell me how old-fashioned I am etc., but I am really turned off by a man who doesn’t pay for the coffees on a first date.

Oh no here we go!

I’ve shared this before but my mate went on a first date with a guy at a chain pub that died food - Greene King type place. He called the waitress over and showed her a code on his phone and asked what the offer was. She said 50% off mains so he said to my mate ‘ok we’re not having a starter’

So they both had a main and the waitress asked if they wanted the dessert menu and immediately says ‘no just the bill thanks’ then made a big performance about paying and it being his treat.

As they got outside he said to her his car was right at the back of the car park where it’s dark so let’s go to it and you can ‘unleash the beast’

When she refused he got really arsey and told her that it was the least she could do after he paid for her dinner.

So he seriously thought a BOGOF cod and chips entitled him to a shag in the car 🤣🤣🤣