Worst date venues and have you ever walked out of them?

[sajamor0811]

Sometimes we need to look on the lighter side and console each other a bit. So I'd like to start a discussion from a date I had on Sunday that lasted all of about an hour.

It had been arranged as a coffee date at a Starbucks open till 10pm. So I thought we'd be staying there for longer than one drink and was a bit surprised when the guy I met suggested going for a walk.

I asked where to partly from a safety viewpoint and partly because I thought he'd have a particular venue or event in mind. There's quite a lot going on in Nottingham and even more so over Bank Holiday.

He said "I was thinking perhaps a pub" and took me to one that was absolutely rammed. The conversation so far had hardly flowed from his side and a noisy pub was hardly conducive to it. The only table was a shared one which you just don't want on a date and I said so.

The next pub had four or five big screens showing football which fair dos, I'm a big fan of. However, the noise could have raised the roof and made conversation which a first date is meant to be about impossible.

I pointed out it was very loud and the guy said incredulously, "You don't like it?" I was at this point tipped over the edge by his general thoughtlessness and cluelessness. So I said I thought the whole point was to talk and went outside.

He didn't come out after me so I started heading towards the railway station. I stopped a couple of times to see if he was looking for me but couldn't see him. The upside was at least I got the last pistachio mousse cake slice from Caffè Nero!

Had quite a good date with a guy, but then he took me to a party in a very nice flat near London Bridge, where everyone was taking cocaine. I was genuinely shocked (country mouse) and after a good look round made my excuses and left.

Yeah when I was new to OLD I had it in my profile I like going for walks. Some guy decided that could be our first date. It was
a no for me. He was dressing it up as being considerate of what I enjoyed doing , but I could see he was just trying to save money. I mean it was the middle of winter 😵‍💫

I don’t know if I’m missing something but why on earth why did you stick around for dinner?🤔

I’d have left the minute the other date arrived 😵‍💫 unless of course I didn’t realise she was his date. But when I did catch on I’d have left immediately.

edit to add: and just before I left I probably would’ve thanked him for an “interesting date” and said all the best, in front of the other woman - just to give her a heads up and embarrass him.
Two birds with one stone and all that…

A date with a guy I met for coffee in a park cafe. He was nice, but just not my type. However I was more of a people pleaser back then, so when he suggested we extend the date to lunch at the cafe, as we were 'getting on so well' (his words), I stupidly agreed. An hour later and lunch ends and he suggests we go for a little walk. People-pleasing me says ok, thinking a quick 10 minute walk and then I'm off. Except this is a big, semi-wild country park and he knows his way around it and I don't. There then follows 90 minutes of me traipsing around the wilderness in strappy sandals, in the midday sun, getting blisters and sunburn and hoping the car park will be around the next bend ... Important lesson learnt: if you're not feeling it after the first 15 minutes, just say lovely to meet you, thanks for the coffee and leave!

I'm utterly weak laughing here🤣😂😂

My best worst 'date' was this...

(I say 'date' because I hadn't realised it was...)

I used to do a hobby and was one of the younger ones there. So I socialised a lot with much older people.

One of the men invited me out for birthday drinks. I assumed he'd invited other people from the hobby but no. It was just me and some random friends and family members. I thought this was odd but, as I was 40 and he was 70, I didn't think much of it.

He was a nice man though! So when he suggested drinks a few weeks later, I went. This time, there was no one else. But then he was very surprised to bump into some different friends of his and so we joined them. Despite being surprised to see them, it transpired that they met at this pub on the same day every week...

I thought they were rather interested in me, my job, my family... the asked a lot of questions.

It was only when I left and he walked me to the bus stop and tried to kiss me that I realised I'd been on two dates with this man 😅😅😅

I've just remembered another accidental date I've been on!

I'm crap really!

People should really tell you that they're asking you on a date 🤣

@GreyCarpet You remind me of my accidental dates! I used to rent a room from live-in landlord. A while after I moved out, we reconnected and he asked whether I wanted to go for a coffee, then a concert or drink (can't remember 😅), then go to a game with a few of his friends. Mind you, these things happen a few weeks apart from each other, and we didn't hold hands or anything, so I just thought were friends hanging out. Until one day he invited me over and proposed me to move in that I realise we have been dating! 😐

I don’t have any bad places, lots of bad men stories though.
I’m just enjoying reading these!

When I was late teens I went on a date with a local boy. He was from a well off family - I wasn't. He said he needed to drop some cassettes (this was early 80s) off at his friend's, so off we went in his Datsun cherry to his mates. We were invited in and there were lots of other people there, so we got a drink and sat on the floor in the smoke filled room. I hadn't got a clue what was going on but there were leaflets scattered around with LCC on the front. I sat there thinking LCC? Some cricket club perhaps? It slowly dawned on me that I was unwittingly at a meeting of the legalise cannabis campaign. I was very young and naive and panicked that there might be a police raid. I said I needed the toilet so left the room, left the building and ran home. That relationship didn't last long. He was far too cool for me and went on to be a successful music producer.

Also from notts and there are so many lovely quiet pubs, what a shame he only wanted to watch footie! The rooftop terrace at hidden is a most for first dates

Actually, a decent beach bar venue I knew already. I t was my suggestion. Couldn’t go there for months in case they recognised me.

As I drove up I saw a fat slightly grim looking man in leathers standing on the corner waiting. Nothing like his clearly out of date photos!

I wish I had known my worth, I would have driven off and texted an excuse. Instead we had a “two pints” 😠 date where he moaned about his ex wife and how great his daughter was.

Then there was the first date I actually did turn my back on before he saw me because he looked like a drug addict goth - again absolutely nothing like his picture. When I got back to the safety of my car he texted me back “so you’re rejecting me because I’m ugly?”. <shudders>

@SamW98 @Moneypennywise

OMG! These are comedy gold 🤣🤣🤣🤣

A first date took me to a park to show me a memorial plaque for his deceased sister...

Sounds like you've dodged a bullet - although since you're a footie fan, think you did well to not plonk yourself down in the pub and stare at the screen until the end - which your date might have liked.
A really weird date I had once - my date took me to the Bodyworks museum in London which housed a load of dead humans and animals recreated to lifelike sculptures using real skin and body parts. Silence of the Lambs eat your heart out. There were also diseased foetuses in glass jars....

My first ever online date I walked out the venue not because of where it was but because of the creepy rude guy I was on a date with. He had the cheek to change the original venue a country pub nearer me to one nearer him! Being my first date I just went along with it, I expecting a well groomed professional man from the photos (work photo) when I turned up he was rather scruffy, a black front tooth, a purple shirt, he had already been drinking so he smelt of too much alcohol, vaped in front of me, when we sat down he was annoyed I chose the best chair, why on earth I stayed for two drinks I don't know, we didn't agree on anything, I reached my politeness limit and just got up and left without looking back and hurried to my car 😂

Not a crap venue but my mate went on a date years ago and the bloke turned up wearing an obvious wig.

She tried really hard not to stare but it was so hard.

Then to make things even worse, az he went to the bar, he tripped down the step and his wig slipped. When he came back with the drinks it was wonky 🤣🤣

She said to him ‘I’m really sorry but this isn’t working for me’ and he replied ‘is it the wig’

I chatted to some bloke for about 2 weeks and really convinced myself we were a perfect match

Right age
Right personality
Decent job
Decent sense of humour
Decent amount of contact
Similar history to my own
As a bonus - good looking , nice and tall

Finally met for a meal about 2 weeks later , he pulled up next to me in his car and as soon as he opened the doors I could smell alcohol
He was pissed - loud , obnoxious , attention seeking
Just embarrassing
Never again 😂

First date I didn't know was a date, we went to a (free) CPD night as we were both in the same profession. Next date I knew was one, MacDonalds, he had a BOGOF deal.
Reader I married him! He was the only child of a single mum and had been to an all boys school. He just had no fucking clue. Turns out he is kind, generous and funny and we've now been married for 23 years. Our kids think it's hilarious.

My worst was at a pub that was really rough and basically turned into a nightclub from like 4pm onwards on a Saturday night. We met there because it was half way. The venue was terrible. Loud. People were really drunk. A drunk woman dancing on a chair fell off and landed on my date’s head. Bar was terrible, couldn’t get more than one drink. It was a shambles.

Must have been ok though because we’ve been together 15 years, married half that time and have a child 😁

😂😂😂

I only have a couple of phone calls to add.

Phoned one guy who spent the whole call telling me about all his work woes and how he was having some legal battle with his employer. This was for nearly all of the phonecall.

Second guy, I arranged a time to call him. When I phoned, he was rushing to see his mother and spent the whole call moaning about his day at work and the crap management, etc. When I pointed out it wasn't really what I wanted to talk about on a first phone call, he got all arsey.

😬😬

Another accidental date one, but I was 16, I think, and this man was 25ish. All sorts of dodgy, but it was the mid 90's and my dad thought it was OK. He took me for a drink at a local pub to discuss his plans for the hobby group I was part of, I stuck to a coke, and he proceeded to talk religion at me for an hour (was NOT a religious hobby), he drove me home, he then bonded with my father for a good couple of hours so I buggered off and left them to it. In that time, they'd agreed I could date him.

He left, and my dad told me where he'd be taking me the next week..... Fuck that!
Dropped the hobby there and then and didn't talk to my father for planning my life like that.

Sounds like it would be a cultural thing right... nope, non practicing Catholic family.

Put me off dating full stop until much later. Moved out as soon as I was able to as well.

A guy picked up my sister for a date and asked her where she'd like to go. I think she suggested a Chinese restaurant or something but they were driving by a McDonalds so he said 'let's just go here'. He was a doctor.