Has DH crossed a line?

[cruelspringsummer]

DH works in an industry where he’s predominantly around females. I have no issue with this, and it’s always been the case that he values his female friendships (possibly more than male ones).

Recently, I’ve noticed message notifications from a female colleague, and when asked about this, he’s brushed it off and said it’s work-related, nothing more.

Last night, when he was asleep, I saw another notification pop up. I’m not proud to admit that I snooped, but one of the messages from the past week or so, were her thanking him for a lift, and another one where she asked if she annoyed him by contacting him outside of working hours - he said that she wasn’t annoying him. But I think that this was a good opportunity for him to nip contact in the bud?

I don’t know why this has triggered something in me, as he’s never given me any reason not to trust him. But she’s young and attractive so maybe I’m feeling insecure and threatened?

Can anyone advise?

@cruelspringsummer does he know you’ve read his messages or did you just mention you’d noticed him on his phone to her.
Further to you telling him it is family time, it’s more directly a time for you to spend time together and be intimate.
I think you’ve stopped short of laying down the law as you are not confident on where you will stand if you do. I completely understand you position.
It doesn’t sound like he’s done anything to reassure you and you sound down.