Dating profile advice

[Antonio85]

Hello everyone
I read thread after thread about good and bad men and the perils of online dating.
I'm just looking at some advice as to how to pitch myself. I'm the very best version of me but I've still got strengths and weaknesses.

Please tell me the do's and don'ts of internet dating. Like I want to blow my own trumpet but I grow up in the north, where if you do that you are a d*CK. Like everyone I have strengths and weaknesses but being from the north I think we have a sell depricating sense of humour. So I don't want to self myself short

It's hard to be funny and show all aspects of your personality within a short profile. There will be many things about you that can only be discovered through chatting/meeting. Same with your date. I always approach it with a open mind and go with the flow.

Nobody can tell you how to be yourself, and that's what you need to do. You need someone who appreciates a self deprecating sense of humour, so show it.

If you want someone to be attracted to a fake version of yourself, follow the advice you'll get on here shortly, but if you want someone who loves you for you, be you, and walk away from anybody who even so much as insinuates that that's not ok.

Successful dating is more about how willing you are to walk away, than how hard you try to attract.

There's a lot of really good advice online about internet dating profiles. I agree that 'selling yourself' doesn't come across particularly well in the UK. Talking about things that you find interesting and enjoy doing is a good way to make your profile stand out without sounding cocky.

So true. My craic is quite dry. I love a sense of humour in a woman too, someone who I can feed off and challenge me, but so hard to tell with just a dating profile.

Honest recent photographs showing your full body.

This is great advice. I'd never "fake it" face to face. But online I'm more Likely to adapt myself to what I think is wanted. I feel like for every strength I have I need to talk about a weakness and vice versa.

How many filters are acceptable?

But online I'm more Likely to adapt myself to what I think is wanted

And what do you think is wanted by your ideal, most compatible partner, who will make you feel happiest? Write your profile for them.

'Acceptable' according to what? Who do you think makes the rules?

Yeah, I can't seem to come up with any witty one-liners to seem more attractive to a man 😄
Though 100% agree with what someone else said about clear, full-length recent, solo pics. Many male profiles lack that.

Ha @Watchkeys no rules. Was half joking really. To be honest wouldn't use filters. But would use the best recent photos without filters

Haha it's not about one liners so much, just "banter" and I hate that word because it reminds me of Richard keys. The full length photos I'm not against, but apparently people are surprised at my height when they meet me, I'm just over 6ft. So that would probably count against me in those photos

Have someone take photos of you outdoors (full body). Without beer or fish in hand. Then have few other pictures, maybe one showing your hobby. Not too many selfies wearing same clothes indoors (all with same face, different angle and last one, tongue out 🙄) Write something in profile that is about yourself (no complaining), be positive. If you're in an app that has prompts, answer few of them. And think of a good opening line, rather than "hi"

Tongue out? 😂. My mamma told me this was rude

None. I said honest and recent of the whole body.
No filters.

@Brumhilda nah I agree. It takes the pressure off a date if I know they've seem the true me.

Photos which show you smiling - no sunglasses on and without a hat.
No group shots where you have to play pick which one I am.
No list of what you want in a woman.
No complaints about how terrible the site is and how no one replies 🙄.
Some genuine insight into what you are interested in - love live music? Then name the bands on your wish list.
Cover the basics - house/car/height (yes I know it's shallow)
Job/sector is great - school of hard knocks less so.
And be clear on what you are looking for.

Thanks very much for this

I have a decent job, tall, nice car. But I haven't always and I've always been me. I know what it's like to struggle, it made me. I'd hate think someone would want me for any of those things. So I'm reluctant to mention them initially.

That's the beauty of being 38. I know what I want.

Don’t say you are looking for ‘a partner in crime’.

As other have said use decent photos and put in a bit about how you enjoy spending your time. You can only say so much in a profile, I think the messaging is more important.

Saw a few women use that phrase. Bit cringey like. One of them was just out of nick.

That's fair enough - it's about who you are, not what you have. But there are a lot of men living with their parents post divorce, not working or don't drive - none of which would really work for me. So I look for profiles which say work, drive and have own place - not expensive car, high flying job and small mansion (can you have a small mansion?)

Nice helpful insight, ta

@StickSeason if I was to describe my house as a small mansion I'm sure the estate agents would have something to say 😂. With regards to a woman, for me it's not about where they are but where they want to go. Being hungry and ambitious to drive forward for a better life