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Dating profile advice

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Antonio85 · 04/05/2024 20:44

Hello everyone
I read thread after thread about good and bad men and the perils of online dating.
I'm just looking at some advice as to how to pitch myself. I'm the very best version of me but I've still got strengths and weaknesses.

Please tell me the do's and don'ts of internet dating. Like I want to blow my own trumpet but I grow up in the north, where if you do that you are a d*CK. Like everyone I have strengths and weaknesses but being from the north I think we have a sell depricating sense of humour. So I don't want to self myself short

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StickSeason · 04/05/2024 22:24

Antonio85 · 04/05/2024 22:06

@StickSeason if I was to describe my house as a small mansion I'm sure the estate agents would have something to say 😂. With regards to a woman, for me it's not about where they are but where they want to go. Being hungry and ambitious to drive forward for a better life

Ha - estate agents put a spin on everything! Sounds like you know what you want - it's just how you convey it in a profile.
Happy to give feedback if you want it. I've often thought I could set up a side business reviewing and improving dating profiles - I'd ban hatfishing, webcam selfies and photos of men disguised by cycling helmets, lycra and shades.

Antonio85 · 04/05/2024 22:32

StickSeason · 04/05/2024 22:24

Ha - estate agents put a spin on everything! Sounds like you know what you want - it's just how you convey it in a profile.
Happy to give feedback if you want it. I've often thought I could set up a side business reviewing and improving dating profiles - I'd ban hatfishing, webcam selfies and photos of men disguised by cycling helmets, lycra and shades.

Perhaps you could be the estate agent to spin my dating profile then @StickSeason I despise the things you mention, by the way. The lycra thing seems to be a big thing with bald fellas over 40.

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Brumhilda · 05/05/2024 02:12

Antonio85 · 04/05/2024 21:19

@Brumhilda nah I agree. It takes the pressure off a date if I know they've seem the true me.

Yes. There’s another poast on here where the men are getting to the date having previously agreed a coffee or drink or something, then converting it to a “walk” date.

and it’s bloody obv. that she doesn’t look anything like her photos and tbh, it would be mortifying, and you’d be living in fear of the reaction of you were misleading all the time you were speaking to them.

so nah, full body shot in focus and a full head shot warts and all, and they can take or leave the honest you.

ThehillIwilldieupon · 05/05/2024 07:28

Half the time I don't even bother getting to what someone has written about themselves because the photos are so woeful or they're looking for something casual.

Have some nice photos that make it look like you actually leave the house once in a while and where you don't have a drink in your hand in every one. Oh and no selfies looking down at the camera.

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 05/05/2024 07:43

I’m back in the dating game and of the recent profiles I matched with comments are below:

  • Good looking man but only stats no blurb. A few photos showing him in dinner suits, water sports, travel and with and without sunglasses. We are messaging on whstsapp though so that worked.

  • Not bad looking man with blurb (the blurb is mostly where they’ll go, what they like to do but with one liners), photo in short turquoise shorts.

  • Good looking man variety of photos but some in very loud patterned shirts bit of blurb.

One man who obviously had a friend take photos had various ones of him in upside down or gravity defying positions. He turned out to be a bit psycho and wasn’t that good looking anyway!

My one pet hate when you’re messaging. Either get on with it and chat and suggest WhatsApp after say a day or so but don’t drag it out.

The first man above. At first I thought he was a scammer as his English was ok but some phrases were a bit unusual, but turned out he’d been to school abroad mostly but family lived here too.

Also, once we text a lot. You don’t know me after lots of texts. Had that a couple of times and makes me run

Yes, I have older and newer photos on my profile.

A good profile for me but depends on the site details main details, a bit light hearted.

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