Tactics dealing with last word people

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I have a few family members that insist of having the last word.

How can you deal with this as a tactic?

Teen does it. And others.

How do you combat it? And come out with some dignity.

HELP!!

You give them enough rope......and just stand there.....and they will eventually feel stupid.

This may help…

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=-m34GUn0QqA&pp=ygUUVmFuIGhlbHNpbmcgbGFzdCB3b3I%3D

Let them have it - the last words are usually the stupidist.

Would agree with letting them have it. In my experience this trait usually screams insecurity, says far more about them than you and by rising above it then you're showing yourself to be a more confident and secure person. I guess maybe having a chat to that effect with teen might help. Can imagine it would be all the more infuriating coming from a DC than an older relative.

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'Noted, we're done'

... Disengage ...

My husband says I'm a last worder. But I think he just gets miffed because he wants the last word to himself 🤣🤣🤣

I'm sure it's becoming more common.

They use their mouths like a weapon.

I literally had to ask my last lodger to leave because she kept Doing this.

If I didn't need a clean record for work I'd punch em right in the mouth 😂 that ought to shut em up!

‘Okay - take the last word - on ye go’ seems to annoy them

🤣🤣🤣 love that!

after they say their 'last word' you respond with a
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with a grumpy tone but a slight question in the intonation.. then they don't know if you are agreeing or disagreeing but you haven't said anything for them to try and respond to.

I'm convinced it is. As is talking over people.

Like those tactics.

When it's family members it's really hard.
Teens and sisters and mothers. Feel hemmed in!

I think total and utter silence can be quite effective.

Just dont say a word. It’s hard to argue in an empty room.

Surely someone has to have the last word so it's either you or them. If you want it be you instead of them then maybe reflect on why that is. Just disengage and let them trail off.

A bit teenage but a sarcastic 'yeah right' is my desperate standby.

(Fuck off is my preferred option but doesn't always suit the audience. )

just dont respond

Yep. Tried all that.
Still feel like if they are rude or just wrong or controlling you with their last word stuff it's hard.

By saying nothing it's agreeing.

Depends on the person I guess.

What do last worders think works?

Teens is super hard. Help!!

Like that. Are you Scottish? Bet it's good in a Scottish accent.

There's something in that.
It's a control thing. Whoever has the last word wins.

I would completely agree. Took me years to work this out but it's a game changer (and I am a lot less upset afterwards using this ploy)

Does silence work with close family members and teens?

DH is a compulsive last worder. I told him ages ago that whatever he thought, I was always having the last word in my head, just not giving him the satisfaction of hearing it. And now I just do a sort of half-amused 'OK, love' nod, so he KNOWS I'm thinking my last word, then drop the rope while he's still trying to last word me.

Dropping the rope infuriates them more but leaves them shouting into the ether in a most unsatisfactory way. I realise this isn't really the most mature way to deal with it.

Unintelligent people do the 'last word' thing.

Unintelligent people assume that a person's silence or refusal to answer a question somehow validates what they are saying.

Think yourself fortunate that you are not unintelligent!

FUSHTA!