Partners late 40s. His 25 year old daughter has appeared back in his life after a couple of years of family drama. He wasnt around much from her being 7 until 19 when she returned. When she appeared 6 weeks ago at his she was having a manic episode and we phoned 111. Shes just come back out and acting more normal. Shes constantly going on about her mum and my partners other 10 year relationship. Shes like a child going over all these memories and showing him photos and screenshots of allsorts. Shes been messaging me and ive been nothing but nice and encouraging.
Id gone down my bfs flat today and took lunch. His daughter was messaging him and was on a bus on her way. Hes not seen her since she went in. I knew the conversations would be very heavy and in the past. It makes me feel on edge as shes been contacting his last partner before me amd my bfs struggled with the past being dragged up. I told him id go home as i had stuff to sort. He accused me of not wanting to know anyone. I explained they needed alone time and he was rude to me. So i left. He text me saying i was childish and pathetic. I told him its not easy for me to listen to stuff about his exes and i wanted to see his daughter next week when im off work and we can relax.
He started saying he didnt wanna talk to me anymore and i was childish. I called him and he answered saying he wasnt going to talk to me as im fucking pathetic. His daughter was there.
His other daughter called me to check her sister had arrived. She said her sister thinks i control her dad. As we carried on speaking weve both realised hes been borrowing money from all 3 of us. He has been lying to us all to get money. I now know hes using drugs and found stuff in his flat.
Im shocked by the whole thing. I dont want to go back to him. I need some words of encouragment to stay away from his drama now.has anyone been here?