An update on my abusive marriage

[dragonstitcher]

I've not posted here for a couple of months. I hope that some may remember me. I didn't post because I was too embarrassed about moaning all the time and not doing much about it. I felt as though people (online and in RL) were sick of hearing it and frustrated with me.

Anyway I'm posting today because I have something positive to report.

As advised here on this board, I did contact Womens Aid. I have been attending the Freedom Programme, which is a small group that teaches women about domestic abuse. I have had my eyes opened.

This morning I contacted Shelter. A nice lady told me that the woman at my local council who told me I couldn't get any help with housing was wrong. If I am suffering abuse they have a legal duty to help me and my children escape from it. She gave me a direct number for my councils Housing Needs Team and told me to push for an interview. So I did. I have an hour long interview on 10th April to see if I qualify for a Tenancy Start up scheme. I have a lady holding a flat for me for the next month until I get the deposit and months rent sorted out, and then we're gone!

Please everyone, keep everything crossed for me and my three girls!!! I'm so scared that I'm actually doing this!

Brilliant, well done you ..you strong woman !!

Well done and good luck with everything.

Well - done - you have done the hardest part - just jeep strong and you will get there!

Wow well done YOU

Good luck XXXX

Good luck!

Well done. Keep strong. And anytime you need support just post on here & some one will come along. Sending you a cuddle. All the very best of luck.

Good for you!

Yes, I remember you. I posted on your previous threads and noticed you disappeared. Well done for taking positive steps. Fingers crossed for you and your girls

Brilliant, well done for getting help!
Good luck with your new home and new life

Ooh I do remember you DS!
Congratulations on taking this big step and getting such a positive reaction too.
You had to wait until you were ready to do it and I am so happy you are at that stage now.
I am crossing things like mad and will still like this until at least the 10th (uncrossing eyes to drive obviously )

That's fantastic news.

Well done be proud of yourself. Good luck and keep us updated xx

brilliant - a lovely new start for you and your girls

Well done you. Fingers crossed that you get everything sorted easily.

Well done and the best of luck to you! You should be very, very proud of yourself xx

I hope you don't mind me asking dragonstitcher but could I possibly email you privately? I will completely understand if you prefer not to. I just wondered if I could pick your brains for a bit of advice.

Well done ! I hope the meeting goes well and you and your girls are free asap

Well done - and when you get to your interview, do not let them fob you off. It's amazing what local authorities will do to convince victims of DV that they do not have a duty to rehouse them. They do and you should not let them persuade you otherwise.

TimeForMe - I have temporary changed my email settings so you can contact me. I don't know whether I'll be any help though.

Thank you dragonstitcher, I really appreciate that. I will email you very soon xx

I remember you DS.

Well done and good for you. Fingers crossed meeting goes well everything is sorted out soon.

I remember you too Dragon - this is SUCH brilliant news. Push the council - WA may well have someone that can go with you for moral support if you need / want it

Make sure you stay safe at home (I take it you are still there for now?) - am sure WA have told you that though

I will be really hoping for a good outcome from the council.

All the best, and some more

well done you for being so strong and positive and remember we are always here when you are having a wobbly moment

xx