So my partner (31M) and I (31F) have been finding things difficult since the birth of our DS1 (8months). I have already been considering leaving the relationship for a multitude of reasons, but we decided to see how we go for the next 2 months and then make a decision. Things improved recently until my oldest friends' wedding - which I have been excited for and planning for months - a night away for us both with my mum looking after the little one, and to catch up with all my high school friends.
The day before we were due to set off, he said he wasn't going, because he didn't have any shoes to wear and couldn't afford to buy any. He has known about this for over 4 months.
He changed his mind, and we went to the wedding, which was fun, until about 8pm when he proceeded to sulk at the tables and then disappear constantly whenever I went to spend time with the bride and my other friends (I kept inviting him to join but he doesn't dance), so I kept coming back to spend time with him too.
About 9pm I get a text saying he's leaving and walking back (1.5hr walk from venue) so I find him and we look into taxis - the venue manager says no taxis and really wouldn't recommend walk. Then my two other close friends come over and say the bus will be here in an hour or so, and DP loudly exclaims 'I want to kill myself' in what is meant to be a jokey way but not taken well by my friends as quite childish. I spoke to him later in the night and asked if he could be more mindful about how he speaks to my friends as its their first time meeting him - he then says - "what, so you think you're the only one with the monopoly on suicide?"
He's referring a time when I struggled with depression (long before we met), and really hurt my feelings.
Could you forgive a comment like that? Without going into too much detail, it's a really horrible thing to say given my past, and I'm so hurt.