If you were single where would you look for a partner?

[Iamaman10012]

I am a man. Just need a bit of hope. Losing hope that I will ever find anyone.

Work? Hobbies? Volunteering groups? Anywhere but the dating apps. It’s not easy though and it’ll take time to find a quality person. I’m in a similar position post divorce.

I would do walking tours and park runs, go to philosophy in pubs sessions and hang out in art galleries looking sad but beautiful 🤩. I wouldn’t do online dating again.

I think in current times it's often quite difficult to meet someone in real life. Have you tried dating apps? Although they're obviously not perfect they can be successful. I met my husband that way

Oh good, it isn't just me then.

Sports clubs like running or swimming, or hiking clubs.

These will be male dominated but there will be some women there too.

Online

Dating apps. At least you know there are willing participants.

Trying to engage/ hit on people in hobby groups/ gym or work is annoying if it's unwanted ( which most of the time is)

I've never "looked" for a partner. I met them through shared interest hobbies, nights out, friends having parties/events/marriages, etc. by accident.

I did try the apps for a short while but, whilst the guys I met and went on a few dates with were decent enough, the spark, that something that needs to be there, just wasn't. It wasn't about a tick list of compatibilities and shared life goals, I just wasn't feeling that feeling you need to feel for it to be anything other than a friendship. And I'm not talking about lust.

Don't give up. I'm sorry it's hard.
I'd try online or a new hobby?

Everyone I have dated has been a friend of a friend or friend of a family member. Can you ask the men you know if they could introduce you?

Unfortunately it's a numbers game. Make yourself available as much as you can, say yes to events and hobbies, I've done online dating too and would likely do that again if I wanted to find somewhere but go in fully aware that I would need to kiss a lot of frogs.

I have heard good things about some of the paid online dating sites. You tend to get people who are more serious about finding someone and less time wasters/opportunists. My cousin found her now husband on the guardian newspaper lonely hearts!

Hobbies or friends of friends.

Sharing something you're passionate about makes for a stronger bond. You'll never run out of conversation, you'll always have something to do together, you'll probably respect and like each other more.

For different reasons, having a shared social circle can shore up a relationship after the honeymoon stage as well.

Not having anything in common is an absolute killer in a relationship and I'm always astonished to see how many don't realise this is the case until years into it.

In my experience the apps were good for nothing except casual sex.

I agree mutual interests and values are really important. I was on then swiftly came off OLD, it's awful.

Relax - rhe right person is out there.

As everyone else has commented, try to find a hobby that you enjoy and that will expand your social circle. Book clubs, art classes and language classes are usually mostly women. The same is true for wine tasting courses and any cooking classes as well as gallery/exhibition openings and anything art related. Any form of exercise which is also good for your health and mood. I also did group golf lessons which were 50% women just after COVID as I wanted to pick up an outdoor sport.

I don’t know your age range but if you are in your 20/30, there are plenty of bars/pubs with younger people in the bigger cities and people are usually out with other friends (rather than alone).

Do you have any clubs you can join at work? Can you do some networking through your job at all?

If you are religious, then I think church will give you a like minded community.

If you are musical, you could consider joining a choir.

What are your hobbies OP? Where do you enjoy yourself most and be most animated and cheerful?

Cheerful, happy and positive is always attractive.

How old are you OP?

If I was fortunate enough to be single, I wouldn't look for a partner.

Join a choir?
Meet up groups?
Singles holidays?

It is a numbers game that you can turn to your advantage by learning how to dance. Doesn't much matter what kind of dance. In each and every dance scene, women heavily outnumber men

Join some group lessons. Most these days are structured to not enforce strict distinctions between men and women but nethertheless.

Take a few private lessons, with a sympathetic teacher, to make sure you really are leading. I can guarantee you will never again be short of female company. Enjoy.

What are your hobbies/ interests?

Only do this if you're good looking. I tried out a salsa class a few years ago and all the women just focus their attention on the one or two hot guys that sign up. Being able or willing to dance will mean nothing if you don't pass the looks threshold.

Being able or willing to dance will mean nothing if you don't pass the looks threshold.

I don't know about Salsa, but I can personally recommend lots of dance scenes where, once through the pain of learning, a really good leader can have his pick of partners

Willingness goes some way, it's competency that gives you the edge. Keep at it.

100% would join sports clubs.

The library?

I'd look in hobby groups for people that shared my real passions. When you have in common something you really love doing - whether that's playing in a band, kayaking down rivers, performing poetry or supporting your local team, you are likely to connect more naturally and easily.