If you were single where would you look for a partner?

[Iamaman10012]

I am a man. Just need a bit of hope. Losing hope that I will ever find anyone.

Don't do a hobby if you only intend to use it as a proxy dating service. In other words don't take up salsa dancing just to meet women, do it because you want to do salsa dancing and you'd be passionate about it even if you didn't meet anyone you wanted to date through it. In other words, it won't matter if women flock to someone else because you're still doing something you love.

(It's very off-putting if you're really into a hobby to meet someone who obviously doesn't care about it and who just wants to find a relationship.)

Also, remember that you don't necessarily meet your partner directly through the hobby. You meet new people, full stop. You'll meet new men and women that you bond with, make friends with them, get invited to their parties or down their pub, meet their friends from outside the hobby... etc etc etc.

Expanding your platonic social circle is key to finding romantic relationships imo.

I met my husband online.

It's regularly suggested on here for women to join hobby groups to meet men so op won't be the only one joining in hope of meeting someone rather than because they actually want to do the hobby

I'd second the hobby thing. But also second doing it for hobby sake and anything extra a bonus. I currently like a guy in a drop-in group I go to, he complimented me a couple of times which makes him super attractive even if he's not my usual 'type'. I will at some point -if he goes again -suggest meeting outside group, then it's up to him. I could be reading signals wrongly.... RL is much harder than apps but I think ultimately more rewarding

Am dram drama groups. Women heavily outweigh men.

No one will ever match the H.

So money to dull the disappointment.

Dating app

Why would it be so awful to stay single?

If I was a man like you I would expand my network or male friends. Through them you will meet their female friends and relatives and colleagues and have advanced knowledge whether they are a psycho bit h or a lovely lady.

Increase your activities and get a dog as that's a great way to talk to random women as they will approach you to stroke the dog or if they have a dog you will have something in common to start up a conversation.

Where did he say it would be awful? But most humans like to have relationships.

@MagicLemon

He didn't say it would be awful and it was a direct question to OP, to try to ascertain what he's looking for in a relationship. Any other questions?

I assume it's just as annoying the other way round!

If you're really, really passionate about something, there's nothing more annoying than someone who's "faking" an interest for ulterior motives.

Or just make female friends directly?

A lot of people on the dating scene go wrong when they meet someone of the opposite sex, don't hit it off romantically, then think that was a waste of their time. But if you get on with someone platonically they could well be the connection between you and a future partner.

A man with female friends is a green flag to me; it tells me they respect women and enjoy their company even when sex and attraction aren't on the table.

Never online, never met a sane person online!

Hobbies - join a group you are interested in. Music, food, crafting, sports etc. You get to know someone organically, and you can usually tell v quickly if they’re someone you want to know more about.

Walking groups

Online.

There's a gap in the market for a man with great photos, an interesting profile and great chat who is intentional about meeting up. Bonus points if you're interesting with hobbies and interests and a great sense of humour. Extra bonus points if you get the date booked in swiftly and suggest a lovely location for it.

And yet many people met their partner online. There are sane and insane people everywhere.

Pub

Only shit people are single? Nice.

@BeenThere101

Maybe they wouldn’t be single

Because...?

Mine would be : running clubs, the gym, the theatre, a walking group ? (only if you like those things yourself obviously). You don't mention your age.

Can we go back to a world where being interesting and having a great sense of humour are essential and the ability to create a dating profile is a bonus?

Hey Mate definitely try online dating or singles nights locally or within a 50 mile radius. I did online dating for about six months had a 3 year relationship. After that came to an end I did it again and met my current partner. We've been together nearly 9 years. There's definitely hope out there for everyone. I wouldn't bother with hobby clubs & groups unless it's definitely something
your genuinely interested in. Last thing you want to present yourself as is an on the hunt singleton.

As a man you need to go to yoga and pilates classes! The ones I go to are mainly women with the odd token bloke.
But definitely try hobby group or volunteer group.