Is this wrong?

[Cougar101]

43 year old female, don't look my age, have been told I'm quite pretty, I'm also very young at heart for my age. Have been chatting to a 22 year old guy online with potential plans to meet up.
He seems very mature and not at all sexual or sleazy, have done a video call already.
Just want to know is this totally wrong?.
I don't notice the age difference when we are texting or chatting.
But I'm aware I could easily be his mother.

My original opinion was to tell you to stay away from him as it’s probably him fulfilling some fetish or even a dare with the lads.

But hearing you try justify it by likening it to the gross Taylor-Johnson situation gave me the boke… find someone your own age!

This is not a good example. She met him when he was about six - she was friends with his mum. Groomed him for years and jumped on him as soon as he was legal. Made him cut contact with his parents so they couldn’t object to her abuse.

In your situation, the other person is a consenting adult. So I think it’s fine. I wouldn’t get your hopes up for anything more than a short term fling. But it isn’t “wrong” as such. Not in the way that Aaron Taylor-Johnson’s relationship is wrong.

If it's just for sex then own that. Don't make it into some nature relationship.

Personally I wouldn't. I've been asked out by men in their twenties and no. Nope. Hell no.

If you're closer to my kids age than my age it's never going to happen.

You say he knows your age and initiated the conversation.

From this I would rad that he’s after sex with an older woman.

Ok if that’s what you want too but don’t be surprised if it lasts no more than one or two dates and he’s brags about it to his friends. Bear in mind also that his mates may be involved every time he chats to you too. Egging him on.

If you’re ok that this is a possibility and have a thick skin, go ahead.

You risk being made a fool of and I think you sound vulnerable as you sound very flattered by his attention.

On the other hand, if he's genuine then I’d be concerned why he’s looking for a mother figure and that he has some “ issues”.

You say he is very mature. That's a silly assertion. A 22 year old by definition cannot be mature. The two things don't go together and are not supposed to go together. So you are basically kidding yourself on that level.

When he is your age, you will be 64. You can quote all the celebrities you like but in the real world it doesn't fly.

no

I am 54, my eldest "child" is 35

just seems wrong to me

When he is the OP’s age she is most likely have moved on though. We are talking about here and now, not the future.

Some (but not all) of the best sex I’ve had has been with younger men.

I am not remotely sleazy

Yet you are. This puts you in the remotely sleazy bracket.

I have a 21 year old id be embarrassed if he told me his new GF was 43.
Older than me.
You do you but no thanks find someone more your age.

Those of you who say it’s wrong, would you say the same if he was in his 30s and OP was in her 50s?