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Obenmoretime · 10/04/2024 17:24

If you received a text about your partner, would you ignore it, belive it or would it concern you and make you think?

This has just happened to a friend, she received a text from a number she didn't know saying something like she deserves better cause dp is a liar. He's not mentioned by name. My friend thinks it's just a mistake but I'm a bit more suspicious?

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solice84 · 10/04/2024 17:26

Aren't there scams that start like this ?

lifeisfunandflowersbloomintherain · 10/04/2024 17:26

Oh right erm I work Friday and Saturday and Sunday 10am-4pm and at my flat Monday to Thursday so no idea of what to do but I know that I have autism and a support worker Monday and Thursday .

Only other person I know has a Motorola phone and that's my guy friend down the road .

Other friend works at Cineworld in Weston Super Mare Nick . From Tom

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Obenmoretime · 10/04/2024 17:27

lifeisfunandflowersbloomintherain · 10/04/2024 17:26

Oh right erm I work Friday and Saturday and Sunday 10am-4pm and at my flat Monday to Thursday so no idea of what to do but I know that I have autism and a support worker Monday and Thursday .

Only other person I know has a Motorola phone and that's my guy friend down the road .

Other friend works at Cineworld in Weston Super Mare Nick . From Tom

What? Wrong thread?

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Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 10/04/2024 17:29

They’re giving an example of a scam text.

NCfor24 · 10/04/2024 17:30

Obenmoretime · 10/04/2024 17:24

If you received a text about your partner, would you ignore it, belive it or would it concern you and make you think?

This has just happened to a friend, she received a text from a number she didn't know saying something like she deserves better cause dp is a liar. He's not mentioned by name. My friend thinks it's just a mistake but I'm a bit more suspicious?

My DH...I'd ignore
If I'd ever had reason to be suspicious however, I'd probably want to know more. I suppose it comes down to gut instinct. Pre DH I have had boyfriends where I absolutely would have followed up on a message like that.

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Obenmoretime · 10/04/2024 17:31

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 10/04/2024 17:29

They’re giving an example of a scam text.

Oh.... Right... I didn't get the relevance

Assuming it's not a scam message, if you received a text about your dp, would it make you suspicious or would you just ignore it?

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lifeisfunandflowersbloomintherain · 10/04/2024 17:35

Real life face to face chat rather than a suspicious text message I try and do that with friends I’ve know. For years and work colleagues sounds very bad .

I used to have Apple theft and care to prevent this from happening .

I guess maybe it’s an old username they used for me I have the broadband email and password and the old Xbox account email .

xbox is bad as it has a long term friend that has OCD and she would / could be targeted on the chat server or playing multiplayer games .

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Obenmoretime · 10/04/2024 17:36

lifeisfunandflowersbloomintherain · 10/04/2024 17:35

Real life face to face chat rather than a suspicious text message I try and do that with friends I’ve know. For years and work colleagues sounds very bad .

I used to have Apple theft and care to prevent this from happening .

I guess maybe it’s an old username they used for me I have the broadband email and password and the old Xbox account email .

xbox is bad as it has a long term friend that has OCD and she would / could be targeted on the chat server or playing multiplayer games .

I don't understand your posts?

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theworldie · 10/04/2024 17:36

Text back and ask for details?

Daffodilsarentfluffy · 10/04/2024 17:36

My ds and his gf are trapped in a similar scam. Ignore and block op.

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Obenmoretime · 10/04/2024 17:37

Daffodilsarentfluffy · 10/04/2024 17:36

My ds and his gf are trapped in a similar scam. Ignore and block op.

I don't understand pp assuming it's a scam?

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Loveandserenity · 10/04/2024 17:39

I am soooooo confused

PossumintheHouse · 10/04/2024 17:39

Are they asking you to click on a link? Just how vague is it?

Loveandserenity · 10/04/2024 17:39

lifeisfunandflowersbloomintherain · 10/04/2024 17:35

Real life face to face chat rather than a suspicious text message I try and do that with friends I’ve know. For years and work colleagues sounds very bad .

I used to have Apple theft and care to prevent this from happening .

I guess maybe it’s an old username they used for me I have the broadband email and password and the old Xbox account email .

xbox is bad as it has a long term friend that has OCD and she would / could be targeted on the chat server or playing multiplayer games .

By this I mean, so so confused

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Obenmoretime · 10/04/2024 17:40

PossumintheHouse · 10/04/2024 17:39

Are they asking you to click on a link? Just how vague is it?

No nothing like that. The text she got just said she deserves better cause her dh is a liar

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Obenmoretime · 10/04/2024 17:40

Loveandserenity · 10/04/2024 17:39

I am soooooo confused

Glad it's not just me!

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PineappleAreApples · 10/04/2024 17:40

No names or obvious details? I would ignore

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 10/04/2024 17:47

Ignore for now then.

PurpleBugz · 10/04/2024 17:49

I would absolutely text back and ask for details. I'd need something identifying my dh to believe it's genuine. But I've been hurt by men I never thought would, even believed the crazy ex story when given evidence. So I'm more likely to believe it it it happened again

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Obenmoretime · 10/04/2024 17:50

I'm not a massive fan of her dp so I want her to text back. I don't think I'd be able to not ask. Would you ask your dps about it or not without evidence?

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lifeisfunandflowersbloomintherain · 10/04/2024 17:51

Oh dear right that’s awful , I think urge caution and tell her main partner the truth about the text then face to face chat to get the information clearly

Plantmother71 · 10/04/2024 17:54

Was the number that sent the message withheld? If not you can Google it and there may be an indication of spam message if others have received and reported messages. Or could it be someone he had been seeing? Or just a jealous person trying to stir the pot!

MILTOBE · 10/04/2024 17:54

I don't think it sounds like a scam. It sounds like someone who's been dating or is dating the partner.

How would they get her phone number?

MILTOBE · 10/04/2024 17:55

If I were her I'd text back "prove it" and I wouldn't tell my partner.

Dacadactyl · 10/04/2024 17:55

Me personally, I'd ignore it and block because I trust DH.

If I was suspicious of my husband, I'd text back saying "who is my husband then? What's his full name and how do you know him?" And then whatever they texted back (even if it was clear they 100% knew him) I'd block them and do my own investigating.