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[Obenmoretime]

If you received a text about your partner, would you ignore it, belive it or would it concern you and make you think?

This has just happened to a friend, she received a text from a number she didn't know saying something like she deserves better cause dp is a liar. He's not mentioned by name. My friend thinks it's just a mistake but I'm a bit more suspicious?

Unless there's something identifying in the message, I'd assume it was something sent out to lots of random numbers hoping someone would bite and reply. Any number of ways you can be scammed once they know it's a valid number and a real person. I'd ignore for now. If it's genuine, whoever it is won't be able to resist poking further if they don't get a response.

What, because her dp is going to willingly admit to having an affair?

All he’ll do if he is up to anything is go and delete any evidence/cover his tracks and be more careful.

She absolutely shouldn’t mention it to her dp. I would text back “need more details”. If they don’t provide any it’s clearly just someone trying to cause trouble.

I think it totally depends on your partner/relationship, how long you’ve been with them & if you have any reason to doubt it. If it was me who received this text about my husband I’d just completely ignore it and assume it was either some kind of weird scam or wrong number scenario. A random text from an unknown number wouldn’t be enough to make me doubt or question my husband, I know exactly the person he is. But obviously if it was a boyfriend I’d only been seeing 6 months, had my suspicions he was a bit of a flirt etc then I’d be more likely to respond.

She's had suspicions about him and a woman he met at work a few years ago but he convinced her there was nothing in it. I've not trusted him since

Ah yeah could be work related, oh gosh well that’s not great well then maybe it’s a good thing that it’s out there at least you know what could be going on, but there again what if the real bf wasn’t there at work the day it occurred .

I suppose at that point you just need to butt out then. She is the one in a relationship with him and who truly knows him, if she believes him then all you can do is stand by her wishes.

My friend dumped his first gf Alana for a new one erm but that's history and next relationship was a disaster .

Double check everything including the texts and then you know for certain .

My guess is this other girl is trouble with a capital T.

Save the number then look on WhatsApp see if they have a picture. Google the number too.

I trust DH completely so I'd ask him and ignore. She has to go with her gut not yours.

I trust my DH and wouldn't give it a second thought. Then again, if anyone was asked what he's like, their first response is always "he's so nice". That's my response too 🤣 He has many other good qualities but he's genuinely lovely.

I'd definitely be concerned. I'd text back and engage the text sender in conversation, asking for details. I would imagine that it would become fairly obvious whether they were genuine or not.....

I don't think my husband is cheating - I have not reason to think he is and I am not sure when he would be doing it given that he is always here. But many years of misadventure have shown me you can never know for sure.......

Why are you constantly mentioning work? What's that got to do with anything?

Replying cuz I was looking for advice on similar situation, even posted on here recently but other way round. I ended up being the person who messaged. I found out completly by chance a girl who had slept with the boyfriend of a girl I know and been messaging.

Loads of people including my own boyfriend told me to leave it and not get involved. I know from posts on here the messenger often gets caught in the middle of it and the more I thought about it the more stressed I got whether to say or leave it. But I've been cheated on and wish someone told me, the whole thing made me so angry, I had to do something and I messaged anon. I hoped it would just give her urge to look into things cuz I think most cases there is already suspicion. She message back asking who it is and if I have proof...I don't know whether to reply or leave it, part of me wish I stayed it out of it.

It's actually making me so angry about liars an cheats just typing this now! They are literal scum stealing peoples chance of a happy life with someone they deserve. Can you get the number and do some digging yourself? But the person who message might feel the same as I do and not want to say more. I think you have to appeal to their human side and guilt, for me that's what would make me feel like I have to reply.
If I got a message like this I would be suspicious which I know is cuz of my experiences. I wouldn't mention to partner without looking into it first, it gives them opportunity to deny or lie, or the lesser of evils maybe they confess (only now that they're caught out so still shit) and convince you to give them another chance.
If she is in a secure relationship with 100% trust, which she may feel, then no need for her to look into it...I can't imagine how that feels but there must be people with that complete trust who would block and delete, not give a second thought to it, not even mention to their partner to laugh about how ridiculous it is...after all isn't that what a truly secure relationship should be?

Sorry for long post/rant. Its been taking up alot of my thoughts recently.