I've been seeing a guy I met online for about 8 months now. I know it is still early days but it just feels like its not going anywhere. Obviously as we started we had lots of nice dates out and some times dates in together but increasingly I feel like he is happy enough if I come out to him but if its his turn to come to my place he's making it seem like its a hassle to him.
We had previously agreed that he would come to my place this evening but when I called him this afternoon he was saying he was tired and just wanted to stay in, I told him I was upset as we'd previously agreed we'd see each other, he then said I could maybe tempt him out if I bought him a takeaway from his favourite Indian place near me! I said no as I'd already made food in advance so he said he would just stay home.
I feel so annoyed and that while its nice to have the odd treat of a takeaway I shouldn't have to be buying him it as an incentive to come and see me? It just feels like he isn't up for giving up more time to spend with me, he can't be bothered to visit me much of the time, often Saturday nights are reserved for "the boys" and he still doesn't want to meet my family.
I am just feeling like I'm a place marker for him. Its disheartening as I am 42 and its yet another disappointing relationship which has wasted my time.