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Meeting that someone when you least expect it.

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Hoppitybobbins · 03/04/2024 21:18

after a recent separation, I’m of the mindset that I will never get involved with another man again. I literally cannot think of one attribute that would impress me enough to fall for another person.

However, one must never say never.

I’d therefore like to know if any of you felt like me at one time but ended up surprising themselves by falling in love at a time when it seemed most unlikely.

can that happen? Or is it that once you step over the line into single-dom and end up rather liking it, you’ll never go back?

and if it has happened to you, what was it that turned things upside down?

id like to think these things can happen to even tired, cynical types like me who has a career and a dog and likes own company. I cannot imagine it, but maybe…?

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StarDolphins · 20/04/2024 23:43

The replies where they’ve met OLD is not ‘meeting someone when you least expect it’ surely if you’re on an online dating site, you’re’looking’?

Anyway, this hasn’t happened to
me op as I’m not looking but my friend (who was very happy & busy single) met a really lovely guy walking her dog! They kept bumping into ea h other & itwasaslow burner but they’ve been together a good few years now. They’re both lovely too.

Hoppitybobbins · 21/04/2024 13:50

keffie12 · 20/04/2024 22:53

I met my 2nd husband in 2002 whilst I was in the middle of the divorce from hell to the ex (violence and the aftermath)

I'd finally fled with 4 youngsters in 2000. We walked the fires of hell with the aftermath, hidden homeless and involved with the whole system of this country.

I had a dysfunctional upbringing, too, so I never realised there were decent men out there like my 2nd husband.

He is my soul mate, husband, and best friend. He also is the dad he didn't have to be to.my 4 and grandpa to 5. He also had never married or had children cos he helped look after his dad, who went blind when he was 20. As we met, his dad passed away.

I didn't get it the first few years. I pushed every button. I didn't understand why he wasn't like my father or the ex. I didn't equate love without violence.

I finally accepted that this was real and how it should be. Gosh, I am a spoilt princess.

My 2nd husband unexpectedly passed away in 2018. However, he is the one and only. No one would or could replace him. Today, I say I am a married widow as that is what I am.

Anyone who tries to be scornful gets asked who they have lost. If they say a parent or siblings, for example, "I ask them,"when are they going out to replace that person? " They look on shocked and horrified. I smile and walk away.

So I share that to say if I can meet someone like I did with the chaos and aftermath I came with then anyone can.

I certainly wasn't looking for anyone at that time. I didn't even know men like my 2nd husband existed..

What a gorgeous, yet heartbreaking story. I’m sorry for your loss. But beautiful you experienced what you did and he’s a lucky spirit having you honouring him and your cherished memory as you are. When you find something that special, I don’t blame you for keeping hold of it.

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trippingthelightfantastic1 · 21/04/2024 21:38

I met my lovely partner through work. I was about to get on a step ladder to reach a book and he beat me to it (without the ladder 😂). Made my go all of a flutter. I honestly cannot believe how lucky I am to have met him. He is my soul mate and I feel so sad that I did not get to meet him when I was younger.

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