Can we have some positive stuff about MILs here please? I'm fed up of all the moaning!

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As a mother of two boys I am horrified to hear how some of you think that your own mother is more important than your pain in the neck MILS.
Can we have some positive MIL stuff here please? My mil is not perfect but she must love my dp like I love my own sons so doesn't that give us the biggest ever thing in common?

I miss my MIL. She died suddenly of a brain haemorrhage 18 months ago. She thought I was a mad dizzy blonde but I think she liked me. It's also painful to see how much DH still misses her.

And we miss her lovely cooking. She was the centre of the family and we've all had to learn to function without our hub.

Well as my MIL has just driven away (well FIL is driving but MIL is with him) with my 2 DC until tomorrow evening I am thinking rather well of her atm.

Ah, I've been meaning to start a thread like this for ages.

My MIL is wonderful and I mean it. She is great fun, the sort of person who half an hour after moving into a house will have all the neighbours round for a party and everybody feeling like they've known her for ages. She was totally laidback and accepting of me, and over the years I've learnt a lot from her about not being judgmental and accepting people for who they are.

And she is one of the most courageous people I've ever known- fighting breast cancer in her 70's, then secondaries, currently in a wheelchair because of spinal cancer, was told last year that she would never be able to live on her own again. Did MIL listen? Like heck she did! She is the greatest role model I could wish for for dd who is also in a wheelchair.

And she made a great job of bringing up dh.

Well my MIL is a pain in the arse. However, like her I have 2 boys. Being her DIL for 15 years has taught me a lot of what not to dow ehn they eventually get married.

My MIL is a complete monkey when it comes to being sensible, responsible etc etc. She fed all of her kids out of a microwave and ran off with the neighbour.

BUT..... She is great fun and we get on fine. AND she can outdrink me.

If only she lived over here so I could scrounge some babysitting hours off her!

My MIL is lovely.

We have had our run-ins but she would do anything to help me & dh out, and she loves looking after the kids!

Gosh, this thread is such a relief! As the mother of a boy, the constant series of threads about how evil MILs are really depresses me. Very good to hear there are some people who get on with their MILs.

Mine is lovely - I do complain sometimes because she can be a bit demanding but then, she's old and lonely and frail and does need a bit of looking after. BUT despite being frail, she plays brilliantly with ds and tries so hard to look after us when we go round, I have to be really pushy to stand any chance of actually doing stuff for her. And she's great at not criticising - even though I'm sure there is lots she would do differently.

My Mil is lovely. I knew her years ago as I went to school with ther daughter. Now 20 something years on Im married to her ds and everyones happy. In fact she complimented me on my mothering skills to dh just yesterday
My ex MIL on the other hand was a total cow and only spoke to me when I had ds1 after 2 years of knowing her

My MIL is really nice. Doesn't interfere but is willing to help if I ask. Clearly adores my DH (her only son) but doesn't bother him or make me feel as if I am not good enough for him ( I really hope that I have the restraint to be like this when my DS is grown up!)

Only problem is my DH thinks she is bloody perfect and says annoying things when I cook like 'my mum does it so and so way' which drives me mad. Though of course that's not her fault. I do say on these occasions, 'but I am not your mother and I will do it my way'.

Hope that my son doesn't marry someone who hates me!

My SIL can be a real PITA though! Comparing how her DCs are to mine etc. Having little digs at how I do things. Drives me (and DH) mad sometimes.

My FIL is nice too - when DC2 was tiny I was sitting with her and him alone in a room (the rest of the family were in the kitchen), and he told me that I was a perfect mother!! How nice. He then went on to say that they were relly glad that DH had chosen me after so many previous girlfriends that were not quite to their taste!! Was v funny. DH a little older than me so has had a number of relationships before we met.

Told DH this afterwards and he was really miffed!

My MIL is a wonderful woman! She single handedly raised DH, and made him who is is today.
She is kind, unselfish, thoughtful, and wise.
She never makes hints or suggestions, nor passes comment re DD, and is always around if we need her- needless to say she and Dd adore one another!

What a great idea for a thread.

My MIL is an amazing woman. Had DH while still at uni (in her second year), still got very respectable degree, then was SAHM with DH and his sister for several years (which she found vvvv tough not least because she had a lot of, um, "advice" from relatives about her parenting).

Late surprise baby (now 16) and new high-powered career in executive search, but she is still a fantastic grandmother to my 3 (despite being young enough, technically, to be their mum!! Derives great amusement from telling people in shops/restaurants/playgrounds that she is their grandma), and frequently takes days off just to come and spend time with them - and when she does, brings masses of food for dinner and usually tidies my house and cleans my bathroom.

She is much more of a neatness freak than I am and about 5 million times fitter/healthier/thinner (so quite scary too), but she has always been so lovely to me.

Plus she loves to read so I buy her a stack of nice books for her birthday and Christmas and then she lends them to me when she's done. Bonus.

Mine is nice too. Doesn't interfere and loves my lo and my DH and maybe thinks I'm alright

What more could I ask for?

Oh and lets me read her magazines and drink tea when I'm at her house for a little washing up after dinner in return. A fair swap.

He best thing though is she brought up a great son who does his own ironing and housework and wasn't looking for a domestic in his partner.

My MIL is the best in the world...

She never ever:

interferes

offers unwanted opinions

undermines me

makes me feel like I should be grateful for her DS

makes sarky comments about my weight

She is the best sort of MIL...............

She is dead.

my mil has been through the mill...and came out smiling ,with love to share and bucket loads of optimism.i have never met anyone like her..she is an amazing person.

she loves my children.she loves her boy.she puts up with me being less than perfect!

she has recently been reunited wuth her long lost son who was adopted aged six weeks...and that is a beautiful thing that just keeps getting more and more lovely....aaaahhhhh

and a bit of a cliche...but she never ever interferes

Mine is a bit dippy but an absolute sweetheart, and I genuinely love her.

My mil is wonderful! We are very different - but she respects that and keeps her own counsel when she disagrees with me. She never undermines me with the children or excludes me with dh. She has always treated me with love and respect. I couldn't even begin to count the things she has done for us. She runs after us when we are staying there, volunteering for bed and bath duties and encourages dh and I to go out alone as much or as little as we wish. She is a star - and I must find ways of showing her I appreciate that!